Why Smart Girls Have To Work Harder To Find Love

Your off-the-charts IQ has helped you succeed in getting everything you have ever wanted out of life… except for when it comes to love. What the hell? Why is your higher than average intelligence keeping the guys at bay? Well, it’s pretty simple:

  1. You’re more focused on bossing your career than settling down. While all of your friends were working on finding a guy to settle down with, you were trying to make all that money you spent on a Bachelor’s degree worth it. There was no time for frat party mixers when you were trying to land that internship, and things haven’t slowed down for you much since college, either. Sure you landed your dream job, but now you’re focused on that big promotion. Who has the time to just Netflix and chill?
  2. Nobody likes a know-it-all. OK, so maybe you do know a lot, but nobody wants to date someone who’s constantly telling them how to do something or always has to be right. You want to be his girlfriend, not his teacher (though really, there’s no reason you can’t be a bit of both).
  3. You’re too smart to fall for the BS. You’re not just book smart, you’re street smart too, which means you’re not falling for the same lies guys are selling to all those other girls. You know a lot, and that includes when someone isn’t being honest with you.
  4. You know you can take care of yourself. You’ve been making it on your own since the day you left your parents’ house, and you wouldn’t have it any other way. Sure you’d like to have a man in your life, but you know you don’t need one, and that takes the pressure off of rushing into something that isn’t right.
  5. You have realistic views about love. You’re a numbers girl and you know the numbers don’t lie. Maybe you suffered through your parents’ divorce, or maybe you’ve had a front row seat to watch all of your friends become statistics. Smart girls learn from mistakes, even if it’s someone else’s they’re learning from.
  6. Men are intimidated by youAs they should be. Not only are you able to take care of yourself and call out their lies, but you’re hard for them to keep up with, both in conversations and in terms of success.
  7. You can’t date someone who can’t hold a deep conversation. You know a pretty face when you see one, but you need to be intellectually stimulated. A guy who can only talk about football and Game of Thrones will have a hard time piquing your interest, let alone keeping it.  
  8. You do your researchYou wouldn’t go to a car dealership without doing your research first, and you definitely wouldn’t go on a date without doing your due diligence, either. That summer you spent as a research assistant really upped your Google game. You know exactly what you want going in, so if you see one little thing you don’t like online, the poor guy never stood a chance. Game over.
  9. You have unique interests. Because you’re smarter than the average person, you probably have some unusual hobbies or interests that not just any old basic bro will be able to understand. It’s hard to even agree on a movie when you’re all about a foreign flick and he’s more Will Ferrell.
  10. Your head keeps telling your heart to STFU. It’s basically impossible for you to shut off, or at least tune out, your thoughts. You want to let go and give your heart to someone, but your head just isn’t having it.
  11. You’re overqualified. You’ll probably hear it a million times throughout your career, but it’s even harder to hear when it comes to love. Ultimately, guys want someone they can grow with in a relationship, not someone who already has it all mastered all on their own.
Rachael is an award winning stand-up comedienne, freelance writer, and BravoTV superfan. Her Real Housewives tagline is “The only thing bigger than my boobs are my personalities.” In her spare time, she keeps busy catering to the needs of a very spoiled Siberian Husky, (Paris Hilton), cleaning the skeletons out of her closet (to make room for more shoes), and swiping left to everyone on Tinder. Follow her on twitter @therealplandd.