The Smarter And Wiser You Are, The More Dating Sucks

Dating is one of the hardest things in the world, and that’s mostly because finding a partner is about so much more than just chemistry and mutual attraction. I’ve walked away from the hottest guys because I knew deep down that they weren’t right for me. At this point, I’m pretty sure that my dating life would be a lot easier if I had lower standards. Here’s why:

  1. I wouldn’t think about the future. I’m not a crazy person who pictures my wedding when I have a good first date. I just like to think about my future and where someone would fit into it. My dating life would be pretty awesome if I didn’t have to think about this since I would just have fun at the moment and could forget about finding a life partner.
  2. I would ignore a guy’s career situation. If I didn’t care what a guy was like beyond his good looks, I wouldn’t have to think about what he does for a living. His job would be totally irrelevant… which would be pretty liberating. It’s not that I’m super picky about someone’s career choice — I just want to be with someone who’s as motivated as I am. If I was shallow, I could take away that pressure.
  3. I would save myself some serious time. I wouldn’t have to spend an hour once a week reading through online dating profiles. I would message guys based on their profile pictures alone and could ignore anything that they’d written about themselves. This wouldn’t make for the best matches… which would be the entire point. If they were cute, that’d be enough to make me want to go out with them.
  4. I could forget about red flags. The worst thing about dating? When I meet a cool new guy… and then the red flags start appearing, seemingly out of nowhere. I rack my brain trying to figure out what situations I can handle and which ones I should walk away from. If I was a shallow person, red flags would a thing of the past and I could go full-speed ahead with a new guy no matter what.
  5. I would go for completely different guys. Sure, I care about how someone looks because physical attraction is kind of a thing. I also understand that sometimes, a guy doesn’t make the best first impression and it takes spending more time together to build some chemistry. That means I date guys who are the total opposite of bros and jocks. Not my style. If I was shallow, those would be my types, and maybe my relationships would start a lot faster.
  6. I would never text my BFFs for dating advice. Why would I need to? I would date attractive guys and wouldn’t stress over sending a text message or decoding one of his. I wouldn’t think about every new dating situation as much as I do now, and that would actually be a really welcome thing.
  7. I would enjoy almost relationships. Right now, that’s an oxymoron, but it wouldn’t be if I was a shallow AF person. I would be able to turn my brain off and enjoy hanging out with a cool new guy instead of wondering when he’s finally going to call me his girlfriend. I would keep seeing him even when it becomes clear that he has zero intention of ever giving me that title. And I wouldn’t be upset about it.
  8. I would forget my dealbreakers. Dating is exhausting since I have an idea of who I want to be with… and who I don’t. While this should simplify things, the opposite is usually true. I’m pretty tired of analyzing everything and everyone and trying to figure out who is right for me. It would be amazing to get excited about someone for totally shallow reasons.
  9. I would have a more exciting love life. I try to stay positive but there’s no use mincing words about it: my love life can be boring AF. It’s usually a string of first dates and confusing situations. Being shallow might turn up the heat and that wouldn’t be a bad thing.
  10. I would stop stressing over finding The One. Call me naive or call me a hopeless romantic… or just an optimistic person. I’m probably a mix of all three. I would love to stop stressing over my single status and when I’m going to find someone. If I was shallow, my dating life would be super simple since I would never sweat the fact that I’m still rolling solo. I would enjoy the process of dating and that would be that.
Aya Tsintziras is a freelance lifestyle writer and editor from Toronto, Canada. In addition to writing about dating and relationships for Bolde, she also writes about movies, TV, and video games for ScreenRant and GameRant. She has a Political Science degree from the University of Toronto and a Masters of Journalism from Ryerson University. You can find her on Twitter @ayatsintziras and on Instagram @aya.tsintziras.