When you’re finally in a healthy, loving relationship, you don’t have to guess at a guy’s feelings — they’re obvious. He treats you like a queen, knows how to communicate, has his crap together, and most of all, he never does anything to compromise what you have. He’s crazy about you, so why would he ever want to lose you?
- He knows he has to earn your time. He didn’t just jump into this relationship thinking he didn’t have to do work at it and that everything would be handed to him on a silver platter — only players do that. A real guy who loves you enters a relationship knowing that he’s got to earn your time and the great things you bring to his life. It’s an investment he won’t pull out of in a hurry.
- He doesn’t take you for granted. Sometimes people start acting like jerks because they totally take their partners for granted, but this doesn’t happen when a guy really loves you. He knows how valuable you are and remembers it every day. He appreciates every moment with you, no matter how small.
- He’d rather have something real with you than a quick fix. Sadly, a lot of people out there are only looking for sex these days and it’s really easy to find, thanks to the mass of dating apps at everyone’s disposal. But a guy who’s in love with you would rather have you than a foolish one-night-stand. He’s in this for the long haul and shows it by choosing you over the flimsy attachments he can make with other women.
- He doesn’t try his luck. For some people, the whole appeal of a relationship is to treat it as a challenge. For instance, they might be all about the chase and seeing if they can make you theirs. Or, once they get you, they might try their luck in other ways, such as by seeing if they can cheat and get away with it. BS, right? When a guy is in love with you, he won’t treat you badly as some sort of challenge or dating game. He’s too mature for that.
- He respects your standards and boundaries. You need to have your standards and boundaries written in gold in relationships so that you don’t settle or compromise yourself. Someone who loves you will understand and encourage that. He doesn’t want you to change these things or yourself because then it could mean he could lose you — he wants you just as you are!
- He sees the beauty you bring to his life. He acknowledges all the beautiful things that you bring into his life and cherishes them. He doesn’t downgrade or criticize them or make you feel like you’re not good enough. That crap is what toxic men do, not men who genuinely care for you. In fact, for a man who’s in love with you, the smallest act of love is like a million rolled into one.
- He sees a real future with you. He doesn’t just want to date you — he wants you to be in his future, and he makes it clear that he pictures you in it so there’s no doubt in your mind that he’s in this for the long haul. Sure, he can’t guarantee what can happen in life, but he will fight for you.
- He wants to make you happy. And he doesn’t just say so, he shows you on a daily basis that your happiness is what’s important to him, even more than his own. He works to keep you happy so that you won’t walk away. Best of all, he knows happiness needs work — it’s not something he just expects to happen. This guy is willing to put in the sweat and tears to make it happen for you.
- He means what he says. It’s not just what he does that shows you how committed he is, but also what he says. If he says he’ll call, he will. If he says he’ll check up on you during a tough day, he does. You can depend on him and rely on his words, which makes you feel so much more secure.
- He makes you better. You can tell when you’re with the right guy because he challenges you to be better and you do the same for him. The relationship is based on trust. With a guy who loves you, the changes to you are positive and uplifting, and ultimately you’re both growing so much in the relationship that you wouldn’t dream of being without it.
- He’s clear about his intentions. This guy doesn’t dilly-dally when it comes to making it clear what he wants from you. He shows you that he loves you and opens up about his feelings, as well as where he sees the relationship going – right away. There’s no wasting your time with “let’s just see what happens” or “let’s keep things casual”— that’s what a jerk will tell you in the hope that you keep sleeping with him without asking for a commitment. The man who’s in love is going to make it clear that he wants you, all of you, because he knows the truth: a woman of quality isn’t going to wait around for a lame-ass man.
