If 2017 wasn’t good to your love life, you’re probably excited that it’s finally over and a whole new year lies ahead of you. With every January 1st comes a chance to drop bad habits and start fresh, so delete Mr. Lost Cause from your contact list and start living by these dating rules.
Kick game playing to the curb.
If you spent way too much time last year waiting to text him back twice as long as he waited to text you back, then you wasted too much time. A guy isn’t going to like you less if you text him right back, and if he does, he’s not the one for you. Leave the game playing to the kids and start saying what you mean and meaning what you say. Don’t make or follow arbitrary “rules”—follow your heart.
Don’t be afraid to have “no chill.”
If you see the relationship going somewhere and you want to know where his head is at, ASK! If you intimidate a man by being upfront with your emotions, then he’s clearly not man enough for you. Nothing is more frustrating than wasting your time on a guy and finding out months later that you’re not on the same page. Save that time for someone who deserves it.
Be open and honest even when lying would be less painful/awkward.
Lying full-time time job and a serious commitment. One slip-up can ruin any trust you built in the relationship and it’s simply not worth it. Don’t embellish to try and impress a guy because eventually the truth will come up and a relationship built on falsities is bound to crash. Be open with your feelings. Be honest about your intentions. Don’t try to be someone you’re not if you want someone to fall in love with you.
Broaden your horizons and get out of your comfort zone.
Don’t be afraid to try new things or give chances to someone who isn’t quite your “type”. The reason for previous romantic fails could be because what you need isn’t exactly what you’ve been looking for. It could also be WHERE you’re looking. Sign up to new clubs. Check out different events. You never know where the one can be lurking.
Say “yes” more.
Yes to going on a date with the nice guy at the desk over who isn’t totally your type. Yes to getting coffee with the kinda nerdy type you met at the bookstore. Yes to going to that concert that your friend wants you to go to even though you’re not into that type of music. Worse comes to worst, you walk away with a new friend, some new memories, and no regrets or what-ifs.
Don’t waste your time on the wrong ones.
If the chemistry isn’t there, bail. If you don’t see a future, end it. If he treats you terribly but he’s really cute, realize your worth. These dead end relationships are a waste of time and could be keeping you from finding him. Don’t let the fear of being alone turn a monster into Prince Charming. Savor your alone time. There won’t be much of it once you do find the right guy.
Try online dating if you haven’t—as in, genuinely try.
It’ll easily and quickly turn the dating pool into an ocean. It may be hard to believe but there are decent guys and potential candidates on dating sites. You have better odds meeting someone you connect with online than at a frat bar. Plus, you get to pre-screen them and avoid spending valuable time with someone who clearly has different values or intentions than you do. If you hate it, you can always quit, but it’s worth a shot.
Stop ignoring red flags.
If you see he’s a liar or a player and think he’ll change, he probably won’t. And those little habits you can’t stand now will only get more annoying with time. If there are things that piss you off about him during the “honeymoon” stage, imagine how badly they’ll annoy you once it’s over. Listen to your gut in the beginning in order to you save yourself a lot of trouble in the future.
Don’t be a hero.
I don’t know what it is with women—maybe a maternal instinct, maybe our attraction to the wounded—but we’re always trying to “save” guys. Chances are, they’re not going to change their ways for you and they might even drag you down into whatever hole they’re in. Protect your heart and try to avoid these situations. As they say, “If someone shows you their true colors, don’t try to paint a different picture.”
No matter how tempting it is, do not settle.
Being single is better than being with the wrong person. Maybe the best dating tip for 2018 is simply, don’t. Focus on you. Become happy being your own soul mate. Take yourself out on dates. Buy yourself pizza and grab your own butt. Don’t let just any guy into your life – wait for someone who sweeps you off your feet and makes your life better. Make 2018 YOUR year.
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