Do you ever just feel like you’re meant to be alone? Like maybe there isn’t someone out there who is just right for you? Being single is always seen as a bad thing, but what if I’m just not meant to be in a relationship? I actually like being single and I can’t imagine not being on my own for the rest of my life. What’s so wrong with that?
- I like being by myself. Maybe I’m a huge introvert, but I don’t see anything wrong with being by myself. I like to do things on my own and live my own life. When you’re single, you can do what you want — make your own rules, do your own thing — and that’s exactly what I love about it. Being alone can be relaxing and calming; why wouldn’t I want that for the rest of my life?
- Guys just don’t get me. I’m weird, quirky, and have my own sense of humor — and sometimes I feel like guys just don’t understand. They don’t know where I’m coming from or how to figure me out, so they tend to just leave. I’m okay with that because I would rather be single and be myself than try to be someone I’m not just to be in a relationship.
- I’m too independent. When did being independent become a bad thing? I don’t need to be in a relationship to be able to do the things that I want to do. Being a little wild and making my own path in life is what I want for myself, and I just can’t be tied down to someone else if I want to live out those dreams. All the guys I’ve met just don’t seem to be able to handle that. Whatever!
- I don’t have to be in a relationship to be happy. Being with someone else isn’t what makes you happy. Why do I have to have someone else in order to live a good life? I don’t think that I do. I can be happy all by myself. I want to be in a relationship with myself that fills me up and lights up my life without feeling like I need another person to fill a void. That’s not to say that companionship can’t add a level of happiness to someone’s life, but I’ve got plenty of both without a boyfriend.
- I’m attracted to lots of guys. That doesn’t mean I’m promiscuous. I believe in being in a committed relationship; I just feel connections with multiple people. I want to explore those connections rather than just ignoring them. So maybe I’m not meant to be committed to one person for all of my life. As long as everyone is on the same page about it, I don’t see who it’s hurting.
- I want to make my own life. And maybe a guy just doesn’t fit into that picture. I want to create something that is uniquely my own without feeling pressured by someone else to do what they want or live how they want to live. I want to be free to choose where I go and what I do in life.
- No one meets my standards. I have high standards for myself, and I have high standards for guys too. Sometimes it feels like no one can ever meet those standards. They might be a little bit too high, but I don’t want to settle for less just for the sake of not being on my own. If I can’t find exactly what I want, I’d rather just be on my own.
- I don’t want to rely on anyone else. Because I’m independent, I don’t want to rely on someone else. I want to be able to sustain myself, to support myself and to live life on my terms. Being in a relationship is great, but it can create a codependency that I just don’t want to have.
- I’m wild at heart. Maybe a relationship isn’t right for me because I’m too wild. My heart wants to be free and to wander; to see and experience new things and challenge the status quo. I’m not saying I couldn’t do that if I was in a relationship, but I certainly wouldn’t be able to do whatever I want, whenever I want. You have to consider the other person when you’re coupled up, which is just another reason I prefer being on my own.
- I like doing things my way. And if anyone has a problem with that, too bad. Maybe someday I’ll find someone who can meet my standards and make me feel like I’m meant to be with them forever. But until then, I want to do things how I want to and no one is going to stop me. Maybe I’m just not a relationship type of gal, but I’m okay with that.
