How To Stay On His Mind After A Good Date Without Being Weird

You had a great first date with him but now it’s over and you’re not sure if you’re going to see him again. While you don’t want to be all up in his grill, it really doesn’t hurt to stay on his mind. Here are some ways to make it happen without coming off as a weirdo.

  1. Send a funny text. Everyone wants to laugh, and what’s sexier than a guy with a great sense of humor? Here’s what: being able to laugh at the same things. After the first date, you’ll have a better idea of what tickles his funny bone, so go ahead and send him a funny meme or GIF that’ll make him laugh out loud. You and your text will be memorable. 
  2. Pop in with something interesting. If you can’t resist chatting to him, at least make your interactions worthwhile. Put yourself in the guy’s shoes: would you want him to send you “hey, how’s it going?” texts? No! You’d want him to be interesting. Whatever you do, make sure you have something fun or mentally-stimulating to share with him.
  3. Update your profile picture. If he’s on your WhatsApp or social media, it doesn’t hurt to update your profile picture so he sees a new side to you. Don’t go OTT—changing it once is enough. You don’t have to change it every day just to impress him. He’ll start to wonder what’s up with you. 
  4. Share something cool/thought-provoking on social media. If he’s a friend or follower on social media, go ahead and update your status with something cool or interesting. This isn’t just to impress him but to communicate what you’re about with him (and your other 243 friends). It can’t hurt to put yourself out there and express yourself a bit.
  5. Live your life. Sometimes what either attracts or repels a guy is the energy you send out. He’ll be able to sniff this out from miles away, so don’t make it desperate or clingy energy. In fact, don’t focus so much on him. Go out and live your life. When you’re doing what you love, you’ll make people want to come closer to you. When you’re seizing the day and laughing your heart out, people will want to know what kind of amazing woman you are.
  6. Don’t be so available. Linked to living your life and having fun is the idea of not being too available to the guy. Yeah, you had a great first date, but it was just one date, for goodness’ sake. If you’re waiting for him to text and making sure not to miss any of his calls, you’re becoming obsessive and making him way too important. Keeping a cool head will make him much more attracted to you. 
  7. Share bits and pieces. Don’t give him the full, unabridged version of your life. Although you might think this will keep him around, it will actually bore him. Dating is a dance, not a sprint. You have to tease each other and thrill each other with bits and pieces of information. It’s like giving little nuggets of your personality or leaving a trail of breadcrumbs. That’s much more interesting than throwing someone a loaf and expecting them to eat it in a day.
  8. Show him your passions. The most amazing thing about someone is when their eyes light up because of something that excites them. If you have this, you’ll attract him to you without even trying. Plus, you’ll be so filled with so much love and passion that you won’t need to depend on a guy’s opinion of you. That’s when you slay.
  9. Don’t kiss him at the end of the first date. Kissing on a first date is cool if that’s what you feel like doing, but sometimes holding back a bit can leave the guy wanting more. Maybe give him a peck on the cheek and then flash him a naughty glance as you say goodbye. It’ll drive him crazy and he’ll want to see you again so he can kiss you.
  10. Ask him an interesting question. In a world of boring questions that just make a person seem like a lazy AF dater, it’s really refreshing (read: sexy) for someone to stimulate another person’s mind. Instead of asking him what he wants to achieve in his life, ask him if he’d prefer to be smart or happy, or ask him what his strangest talent is or if he’s ever experienced something really weird that he can’t explain. When you get him thinking of the answers, he’ll be thinking of you.
  11. Plan a second date. Of course, you can always just be upfront with the guy about how much fun you had on the first date and invite him to a second. That way, you’ll be on his mind and you’ll know immediately if he wants to see you again or not. For some people, this is the best strategy because they don’t want to wait around wondering what the person’s thinking about them. Thank you, next!
Giulia Simolo is a writer from Johannesburg, South Africa with a degree in English Language and Literature. She has been working as a journalist for more than a decade, writing for sites including AskMen, Native Interiors, and Live Eco. You can find out more about her on Facebook and LinkedIn, or follow her on Twitter @GiuliaSimolo.