Stay Single As Long As It Takes To Find A Guy Who Makes Being Part Of A Couple Worth It

There are two types of single girls: those who refuse to settle no matter how long it takes to find the right guy and those who are willing to make some concessions for the sake of not being alone. Hopefully you fall into the former category. Sure, you could have a guy tomorrow if you snapped your fingers, but you don’t just want anyone. Here’s why you should stay single for as long as it takes to find a guy who makes being part of a couple worth it:

  1. You don’t want to waste your time. If you date someone because they keep asking you out and they clearly like you but you’re not into him, that’s a huge waste of time. And you should never, ever do that. You have better things to do, don’t you? Like living your amazing life while you wait to meet someone who is the real deal?
  2. You need to feel something. The reason you go on first dates is because you want to find someone that you really connect with. Don’t give that up because you’re tired of your solo status or you feel you should just pick someone already. That’s not the right attitude. You should be with someone who makes you feel super alive, not just any guy who’s single and interested.
  3. You have it pretty good as-is. Okay, so you don’t have the whole BF part of the equation, but you’ve got the friends, the career, the personality, the hobbies, and everything else that makes you, you. You have it pretty good and you shouldn’t make your life miserable by dating a jerk or immature loser just because you want a boyfriend.
  4. Settling won’t solve your problems. It’s super easy to think that if you just had someone to share your life with, things wouldn’t feel so tough sometimes. But think about your friends who are part of couples. They don’t have it that easy, do they? Nope, they don’t. They have jobs they hate, or they’re unemployed, or they’re dealing with a personal issue. Their partners have to take that on… and vice versa. It’s a lot. So there’s no reason to be part of a couple unless you really care about the person.
  5. You’re on the right track already. Going on dates? Making up your mind about these guys without beating yourself up for yet another first date gone nowhere? Getting back out there and trying again? Congrats, you’re on the right track. You’re doing everything in your power to find love and you don’t have to feel bad about it.
  6. Not being in a relationship doesn’t mean there’s wrong with you. It’s pretty easy to get down in the dumps about being single, especially when you’ve been this way for a while. You wonder why it seems like everyone else has such an easy time getting into relationships, but there’s honestly and truly nothing wrong with you. It’s okay to wait until you really like someone.
  7. You’ll regret not holding out for what you really want. Yeah, you have your low moments when you wonder if you should just settle already and be done with it. You wouldn’t have to go on any more crappy dates or get ghosted or feel confused, but you’ll 100% regret settling. Just don’t do it.
  8. You shouldn’t open up to just anyone. The sad truth is that a lot of guys just aren’t worth opening up to. You shouldn’t give your heart to just any guy, and judging by the ones that you’ve already gone out with, you already know this. Dating these people would be a massive mistake.
  9. You deserve real love. You deserve to be treated well and not everyone is worthy of you. If you enter a new relationship before it’s really right, you risk getting hurt and being miserable. And you’re probably going to hurt the guy you’re dating, too. So hold out until it’s real. There’s no point dealing with anything less.
  10. You’re totally normal. Maybe your family tells you that you’re too picky and your friends joke about your constant bad dates. The truth is that you’re totally and completely normal. You’re waiting until the right person comes along, and that’s what a whole lot of single women are doing, too. So be proud of yourself and keep waiting. When you meet him, it will have all been worth it.
Aya Tsintziras is a freelance lifestyle writer and editor from Toronto, Canada. In addition to writing about dating and relationships for Bolde, she also writes about movies, TV, and video games for ScreenRant and GameRant. She has a Political Science degree from the University of Toronto and a Masters of Journalism from Ryerson University. You can find her on Twitter @ayatsintziras and on Instagram @aya.tsintziras.
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