Stop Looking For A Hot Guy — Marry A Nice Nerdy Guy If You Want To Be Happy

If you’re always looking for the hottest, most popular guy to date, this could be why you always end up in unhappy relationships. Choose the nice, nerdy guy instead — especially if you want to get married. Here are 13 reasons why he’ll make the perfect husband.

  1. Looks fade, but with a nerd, it doesn’t matter. You need substance in a boyfriend and future husband. Good looks are simply not enough. When they disappear in time, you’ll want a guy who’s got more going on than a great head of hair or Zac Efron body. The nerd will have so much more to offer, like intelligence that stands the test of time.
  2. Hot guys are trouble. Hot guys often tend to crave attention because they’re so used to getting it. They’re also more likely to cheat because they’re so loved by everyone and their good looks have probably gone to their heads. Stick to the shy, nerdy guy who doesn’t get by on his looks and works on his personality. Unlike the ridiculously hot guy, the nerd will actually have one!
  3. You’ll have great conversation. As you get older, you might not always have the amazing sex life you currently do, so you ideally want a husband who’ll be able to carry a conversation. Nerdy guys will make you think in different ways. They’ll tell you about the stars, or physics or some other fascinating topic. You’re guaranteed to broaden your mind and learn something new every day.
  4. You’ll be treated with respect. Since he hasn’t had loads of women falling all over him, the nerdy and nice guy will probably be amazed that such a hot woman is into him. He’ll appreciate you and treat you like a queen.
  5. Nerds are introverted. That’s a good thing! It means they’ll love hanging around the house, having movie marathons or curling up with a new book, and they can entertain themselves without always needing to be at the hottest clubs and with the most popular people.
  6. They’re creative. There are different types of nerds, from the artistic/writer nerds to the guys who can build computers and fix gadgets. Whatever their interests, nerds tend to be passionate about things and love finding creative solutions to challenging problems. Bonus: they’ll be great at solving your tech trauma.
  7. They’re sensitive. This is good because they’re in tune with their feelings and self-aware. They’ll be able to apologize to you when they’ve done something wrong because they take a good, hard look at themselves. They’re also empathetic, which means they’ll try to see things from your perspective. When you tell them you’ve had a really rough day, they’ll lend you an ear.
  8. They’re refreshing. After a string of unhealthy relationships with jerks, players and cheats, the nerdy nice guy is so refreshing! He’s the guy you can feel comfortable around and secure in your relationship because he makes it easy for you to trust him, which makes him great marriage material.
  9. They’re interesting. You don’t get blinded by their ridiculously good looks or six-packs because they have so much more going for them. Some nerds also have quirks which can be so adorable, like the guy who blushes when he has to speak to a bunch of people, the guy who sniffs books, or the guy with messy hair a la Einstein. It’s these quirks that make them so interesting and memorable.
  10. They don’t peak in college. Many hot guys you knew in high school and college peaked at that time in their lives. The nerds, however, become gorgeous butterflies later in life when they’re out of their cocoons and more comfortable in their skins. They’ve also had to rely on more than a pretty face so they’re well-rounded, interesting people by their 30s. At a school reunion, the nerd will be the intelligent, successful and possibly rich guy everyone wishes they’d been friends with.
  11. They make an effort. The nice nerd works hard in all areas of his life. He’ll sweat it out to make a name for himself in his career and he’ll give you the same attention in your marriage. He’ll put in the work and meet you halfway. In fact, from when you first meet him, he’ll text you regularly and keep his promises because he’s a genuinely nice guy.
  12. They’re real. The nerdy nice guy is down-to-earth and wants to be surrounded by realness. He’s not one for playing games. This is great because it means you can also be real with him. He doesn’t care if you’re having a bad hair day or aren’t feeling sociable, or if you’re not wearing something sexy — he just wants to see the real you and love you for who you are, flaws and all.
  13. They take the right kind of risks. The bad boy will get drunk and try to climb a mountain – or his secretary – but a nerd will take more intelligent risks. He’d rather try to build his own company or invest his money in an exciting passion. The nerd gets his kicks with his mind, not his body, which you’ll appreciate when his mid-life crisis involves building a robot instead of having an affair.
Jessica Blake is a writer who loves good books and good men, and realizes how difficult it is to find both.