Why Did He Stop Texting Me After I Slept With Him? 10 Reasons Guys Blow You Off After Hopping Into Bed

He was chasing you like mad for weeks or maybe even months and the sexual tension was almost unbearable. The chemistry was so explosive that you inevitably ended up in bed together. It felt so right… until he screwed it up by avoiding your text the next day and disappearing on you. What the hell is going on? Here’s why he blew you off after you had sex.

  1. He was all about the chase. Maybe he’s the kind of guy who loves chasing women and he finds it thrilling to try to get a woman into his bed. Once he gets what he wants, his interest starts to fizzle. He’s like the dog who chases a car only to wonder “Now what?” when he catches it.
  2. He was only after a roll in the hay. The truth is, he might just be the type of guy who was only after something sexual rather than a real dating/relationship situation. Maybe he gave you hints that this was the case, or maybe not (which is worse because then he’s a lying jerk).
  3. He wasn’t sure what he wanted. You had sex and it made you want to be with him even more. Maybe this didn’t happen for him. Sex made him anxious or it confused him. It made him unsure of what he actually wants from and with you. Of course, a grown man would have just told you this instead of ignored your calls, but what can you do?
  4. He caught feelings. And what did he do with them? He wasn’t mature enough to deal with them and see if he felt them too, in which case you could be on the road to something amazing. No, he freaked out and ran for the hills. Great. He might eventually get the balls to come back and face up to things, but by then, you should probably be gone.
  5. He sensed you wanted something more. It’s a total myth that a woman will get feelings after having sex (insert eye roll), but if that was the case for you, then it could be that the guy sensed you had feelings for him or felt stronger for him than he did for you and that’s what caused him to bounce. Ugh, his loss.
  6. He didn’t want to commit. If he realized that you’re on totally different dating planets, he might’ve needed to take a bit of space to figure out if he wants something serious or not. In this case, he would only take a bit of time. If the guy’s been out of the picture for days or weeks, then that’s something less benign.
  7. He already has a girlfriend. This is the jerkiest move of all jerks! He might have been attracted to you and wanted to sleep with you, but he’s already got someone in his life and he’s not going to end that relationship. So, he had sex with you and then went back to his girlfriend’s arms. Gross.
  8. The sex didn’t do it for him. Okay, so maybe the sex felt great for you but he didn’t really feel it. It’s not anything you did, it’s just that he didn’t feel that there was physical chemistry. Hey, you can’t control these things. They either happen naturally or not at all. On the other hand, maybe the sex didn’t do it for him because he didn’t rate his own performance and he’s still reeling from the embarrassment.
  9. He wants to keep his options open. Maybe he really does like you and he enjoyed the sex but he doesn’t want to be exclusive. Yup, that’s a big but. He wants to continue dating and sleeping with lots of women, so he doesn’t feel like he has to stay in touch with you all the time. He’s the guy who might creep out of the woodwork and send you a message late at night in a few weeks. You might just want to go ahead and block his number now, right?
  10. He was going to leave anyway. It’s easy to fall into the trap of blaming yourself when a guy bounces after being intimate with you, but it’s honestly not your fault. If he left like this after sex, chances are high that he would’ve left for any other reason. It’s really not about you! The guy’s got issues, like perhaps when it comes to commitment or being comfortable with his own feelings, so it’s best he got the heck out of your life before he caused you more stress.
Giulia Simolo is a writer from Johannesburg, South Africa with a degree in English Language and Literature. She has been working as a journalist for more than a decade, writing for sites including AskMen, Native Interiors, and Live Eco. You can find out more about her on Facebook and LinkedIn, or follow her on Twitter @GiuliaSimolo.