I used to be a hopeless romantic but those days are long gone. Don’t get me wrong, I still hope for some success in the romantic sector—I just know now that love should be a bonus rather than the main focus of my life. Here’s why I’ve changed my perspective:
- It’s a waste of my time. Yes, I’m cynical. With so many failed relationships, can you really blame me? Statistically speaking, most of the time I spend on dating and romance won’t end well. That’s just the way it goes. While I don’t think any time spent learning is truly time wasted, I do know that I have more important places to direct my energy.
- Love doesn’t pay my bills. I guess I could get a sugar daddy and then it would, but that’s not my style. I’m an independent woman and I earn and pay my own way. Unfortunately, that means that my financial well-being will always be prioritized over my love life. That’s simply how it is. I have to take care of my business.
- My happiness comes from me. I used to rely on relationships to be the main source of joy in my life. Now that I actually love myself and the life I live, I don’t need that element to feel content. I’m perfectly fine on my own and I don’t need a man to fill some sad void inside because I learned how to fill it myself.
- I’m fulfilled enough, thanks. I have so many dreams, goals, and ambitions that I could never possibly be bored. My life is busy and exciting and full of laughs and friendship. Where I once would have found this entirely unsatisfying if I wasn’t also in love, now it’s plenty to keep me happy. I have tons to do.
- In my opinion, men are generally useless. That sounds harsh, but it’s pretty true. I don’t want kids, so I don’t need a partner to give them to me. I don’t want a traditional lifestyle and I don’t need a guy to provide me with some kind of financial or emotional stability. I have all that on my own. It would be cool to find an equal partner, but I’m not worried about it.
- All that guys ever do is distract me from my goals. I’ve always had stuff to do, but I used to love using men as an excuse not to focus on my own ambitions. It was so much easier to devote myself to a relationship than to put in the work on my own life. I got older and wiser and realized that having a man will never make my life truly happy if I’m not happy alone first.
- I don’t want to end up another penniless millennial. I’d like to believe that I’ll just fall into a wonderful career and figure it all out, but that’s not realistic. It’s very likely that unless I get my act together and fast, I’m not going to have a stable financial future. I’m already in my early 30s and I’m definitely not financially secure.
- I’m still trying to figure out my life. I can’t have anything distracting me from my most immediate issue, which is that I need to figure out my own life and how I want to live before I involve anyone else. That’s my goal first and foremost. Love will take a backseat indefinitely.
- I’m always happier single. If I look back on my romantic history, I can’t deny that this is definitively true. The best times of my life have been the stretches where I was flying solo. I can be exactly who I am and do exactly what I want. I love it! I’m focused and motivated and constantly working towards bettering myself. When I’m with a guy, I let that consume me instead.
- I don’t have any energy for a new dude. I have so much on my plate as it is that I simply don’t have anything left to give a relationship. Once upon a time, the man in my life would’ve gotten all my attention and devotion. Now I give that focus to my career and my future and find that it’s more fulfilling.
- I’m not getting any younger. Let’s face it—before I know it, I’ll be in my 40s, and I definitely don’t want to be in the same situation that I am now. I’m tired of struggling to pay my bills and always worrying. I want to find something that satisfies me and also keeps me out of bankruptcy court. It’s not an easy task and it takes all my focus. Screw worrying about love.
- Life is better without the likely chance of heartbreak. I always say that when I’m single, I never fight with anyone and I never cry… because it’s true! I’m really skeptical at this point that the highs of love are ever truly worth the lows. I have more important tasks in life than falling in love, like being the best friend and family member I can be and showing up when I say I will.
- I can fill up all hours of the day perfectly well without a man involved. There is never enough time to accomplish all I want to do, even if I completely forgo social interaction and relaxing activities—and who wants to do that? A massage or a nice long dinner with my best friend will always sound more appealing than going on a date with some random.
