12 Strategies I Use To Get Someone To Notice Me When I’m Crushing Hard

How do you get someone to notice you? It’s actually easier than you might think. Here are some of the things I do to get the person I’m crushing on to hopefully like me back.

  1. I try to become friends first (if we’re not already). I don’t just sit there and wait for my crush to come to me. If I like someone, they’re never going to notice me if I don’t make an effort to become friends with them or at least acquaintances. This is the first step to building any kind of relationship with someone.
  2. I regularly start conversations. A big part of becoming friends with someone I like and getting them to notice me is talking to them on a daily basis. It can be as simple as asking how they’re doing, which leads to asking more personal questions as I get to know them. I don’t attempt to send my crush telepathic signals to talk to me. I take the initiative sometimes.
  3. I show interest in the person’s life. I get to know them as much as I can to show them that I care about them and to build a connection. As we become closer, instead of just asking superficial questions, I try to have deeper conversations to strengthen our bond. For example, I ask what their life goals are or discuss things they’re passionate about.
  4. I show them that I’m a good listener. I prove to them that I’m a great shoulder to lean on when something bad happens or when something is bothering them. I make sure I’m there for them if they need someone to talk to. I’m also encouraging when something good happens to them. This illustrates that I’m a good friend and would be a supportive partner too.
  5. I highlight my strengths. I want my crush to get to know me too. So I tell them things about myself that show off how awesome I am. I’ll tell them how driven I am in my career or I’ll talk to them about how important my family is to me, for example. That way they might realize that they like these things about me and that I’m a catch.
  6. I find common interests. Finding things we both enjoy is a great way to bond with the person I’m crushing on. It can be something as simple as liking similar music or the same TV show. It means we always have something to talk about, and it shows them that we could have fun if we were a couple.
  7. I try new things with them. Once we become friends, I’ll suggest doing something together, maybe with a group of mutual friends first. I try to find things to do that the other person likes even if I wouldn’t choose it. It shows them that it doesn’t have to be about me all the time and that I’m open to new experiences. It definitely causes them to pay attention.
  8. I joke around a lot. There’s no faster way to someone’s heart than with shared laughter. If I can consistently laugh and joke with them, it’ll get them to notice me and maybe like me back because we have so much fun being around each other. It’s also a way to flirt and to hopefully move beyond the friend zone.
  9. I flirt but not too much. If I like someone, I obviously flirt to get them to notice me. I want to show them that I’m interested in them on more than just a friend level. Otherwise, even if they like me back, they’ll have no idea that I feel the same way. I don’t go overboard though because I want them to like me and I don’t want to make them uncomfortable or seem desperate.
  10. I’m not overbearing. I make an effort with the person I’m crushing on, but not to the point that it becomes obnoxious. That’s probably going to push them away even if they do have feelings for me. I give them plenty of space and I can take a hint if they really don’t seem interested.
  11. I try to be myself above all else. I’m fine the way I am, so I never pretend to be someone I’m not. I’d never want to start a relationship off based on a lie. If they don’t like me for me then they’re not worth my time anyway. Being self-confident and authentic is how I attract people I’m interested in.
  12. I tell the person how I feel. If none of these strategies lead to romance with my crush, I eventually work up the nerve to tell the person how I feel. This is easier said than done, and it took me a long time to realize that it’s not a big deal. And if I’m that nervous about it, even a simple text gets the job done. Revealing my feelings is the only way I know for sure that I’ve done everything I can. If it doesn’t work out, at least I won’t have to wonder what could’ve been.
Kelli loves to write about lots of different topics, especially relationships, parenting, health, and fitness. She is excited to share her experiences!