I’m A Strong, Independent Woman… Who’s Totally Obsessed With My Boyfriend

Being strong, independent, and ambitious and being in a relationship aren’t mutually exclusive. I have big goals and serious plans to accomplish them all on my own, but I’m still totally smitten with my boyfriend and not ashamed to say it.

  1. I’ve always wanted more than the 9-to-5 life. The standard office job life has never interested me one bit. In fact, it pretty much terrifies me. The idea of spending my life stuck in an office day after day, reporting to someone else has never sat right with me—it’s just not who I am. I’ve always had the feeling I would work for myself and I’ve always known I would have to work hard to accomplish that.
  2. I’ve always dreamed of meeting my Prince Charming too. I’m a hopeless romantic and I’ve always wanted to settle down. I first had a crush on my partner when I was 12 years old; 15 years later, he’s finally mine. He’s my own real-life fairytale and I couldn’t be happier. So, yeah, I’m a little obsessed. That doesn’t negate the rest of my life.
  3. He knows how important my business is to me. He’s always taken my business seriously and is proud of whatever I accomplish. He knows that it sometimes involves long hours of work and he never complains. He sees the best in me and encourages me to be the best I can possibly be. Call me cheesy but it’s true—he totally believes in me and that support spurs me on.
  4. I’ve had a lot of bad relationships so I totally appreciate how amazing he is to me. After years of toxic relationships and being treated like crap by men who tried to drag me down, I can’t put into words how great it is to have finally found an amazing guy. We totally get each other, we’re there for each other, and we support each other through everything. He makes me laugh every single day. Hell yeah, I wanna shout it from the rooftops and gush about him every chance I get.
  5. I know I can do it on my own. I have the same ambition as when I was single and the same attitude towards it. My goals are the same, though they’ve grown and developed with time. I don’t depend on my boyfriend for anything—I can support myself financially and any other way I need to. Knowing I can provide things for myself takes any pressure of that nature off our relationship. Instead, it’s all about love, care, and fun.
  6. It’s like having my own personal cheerleader. Sure, I don’t need support to accomplish what I want. I know I can do it on my own and I have in the past. That doesn’t mean it isn’t damn nice to have someone on your side. Having one person who’s constantly there for you is such a great feeling, whether he’s celebrating my wins with me, helping me relieve stress on a bad day, or just there as a sounding board for new ideas. He keeps me grounded through it all and keeps me always pushing to become the best version of myself.
  7. He’s ambitious too, so we help encourage each other. Just like he always supports me, I’m his number one fan too. We’re total equals in our relationship and we know how to help each other. It’s give and take, just as it should be in a healthy relationship. There are times I need more support and vice versa, and we balance well with each other. We’re two independent people supporting each other rather than being co-dependent.
  8. Having a happy family life helps me strive for more in my professional life. We want to build a life together, and having that plan keeps me pushing hard to achieve my goals. I still want to achieve them for myself, but there’s more to it now. The stronger our relationship is, the more focused I am on my goals. He makes me excited for the future and how successful I am all fits into that because it’ll help determine what kind of life we build.
  9. He makes me happy. It quite simply comes down to that. He’s my best friend. He makes me the happiest I’ve ever been. I’ve never laughed or smiled so much in my life, and I just want to be around him all the time. I’ve never felt like I have to compromise what I want to achieve to fit into our joint life plans, and that’s what keeps our relationship so strong.
Lifestyle and relationship writer from the tiny island of Jersey, CI. Survives on a steady diet of wine, sunshine and fairytales. Fluent in sarcasm and Disney quotes.