Strong, Smart Women Know Better Than To Put Up With These Things In Relationships

Strong, Smart Women Know Better Than To Put Up With These Things In Relationships ©iStock/ByeByeTokyo

As a strong, independent woman, you know your worth and you’re not about to settle for someone who doesn’t recognize and respect it. That’s why you’d never put up with these 12 things from a guy.

  1. Being Treated Like His Mom It’s not your job to wake him up in the morning, wash his clothes, bring him coffee at work, or remind him when his doctor appointments are. You’re not his servant and you’re sure as hell not his mom. You don’t want to be with a guy who’s clearly looking for a mother type girlfriend, what kind of freaky nonsense is that?!
  2. BS Excuses Sometimes life can get in the way of plans. You know that and you have no problem being canceled on every so often, but the reason for those cancellations should be valid. His car broke down, he had to pick his little brother up from school, or he had to work late—these kind of excuses are fine…in moderation. If every other day he’s hitting you with an “I have to work late” text, there’s a problem and you can’t/won’t accept it.
  3. Being Manipulated Strong women are secure women. You know who you are and you know how you want to be treated, and being manipulated isn’t an option! A guy who uses, controls, and persuades you to do things you’d never in a million years do isn’t a guy you’re interested in getting to know in any way.
  4. Cheating Cheating isn’t a dealbreaker for everyone but it is for you. You don’t care why he cheated, where he cheated, or who he cheated with. You don’t even care if it was emotional or physical cheating. If he was unfaithful, even if it was just a couple of flirty texts, you’re done. Why would you give all your time and attention to a guy who’s glancing elsewhere?
  5. Being Way Too Obsessed With Sex Sex is an important part of a relationship and you have no problem trying new and kinky things in between the sheets. However, you’re a grown woman who has other things on her mind than getting freaky 24/7 and you want a guy who’s in a similar position. Sex shouldn’t be the extent of his conversation. If it is, he’s just a teenager trapped in a late 20-something’s body. NEXT.
  6. Not Being Supported Sure, you’re a strong woman, but that doesn’t mean you don’t need to be supported. You want to be able to discuss your goals with your significant other and if all he can do is call out your dreams for “not being realistic,” what’s the point of him?
  7. Jealousy You’re too independent to deal with a guy who’s too insecure to trust you to go out with your girlfriends on a Friday night. There are some situations where it’s okay to be a little jealous (like when you’re gyrating on a guy while your boyfriend is a mere foot away) but being jealous and acting jealous are two completely different things. If he’s constantly checking up on you whenever he’s not with you, there’s an issue there, and you don’t have time for it.
  8. Being Disrespected Disrespect can come in many forms. It doesn’t just have to be someone yelling at you or making fun of your appearance. A boyfriend could definitely be judgmental but he could also talk down to you, belittle your opinions, and even make comments on how he wishes you were “different.” If he’s not treating you the way he’d like to be treated, he’s not the one for you.
  9. Lying You’re an honest person. Some might even say you’re too honest, but whatever, that’s who you are and that’s what you’re looking for in a partner. You don’t want a guy who’s too shy, scared, or insecure to speak his truth. He should be able to tell you he’s hanging out with his guy friends after work—and he’d better let you know if he accidentally ran into his ex-girlfriend at a coffee shop. For you, omitting the truth is just as bad as straight up lying.
  10. Being Way Too Negative Everyone has bad days. You get that, but you won’t tolerate a guy who has more bad days than good days. You don’t want someone who’s constantly dwelling on the negative aspect of EVERY SINGLE THING. You’re trying to live your best life and negative energy isn’t needed.
  11. Wanting Too Much Control Everyone should be equal in a relationship, which isn’t always easy for you because you naturally like having the power. Still, you do your best to keep things neutral, which is why you really really really can’t deal with a guy who wants all the power! Realistically, there’s only room for one control freak in a relationship and that’s going to be you. Duh.
  12. Not Being Valued Life is complicated enough and you don’t want your relationship to be too. You want a guy who’s going to text you when he says he is, show up when he says he’s going to show up, and be there for you when he says he’s going to be there for you! If he can’t do that, then he’s a boy who hasn’t grown up enough to date a strong woman like you.
Jordan White is a writer based in Scottsdale, Arizona with more than 8 years of experience. She graduated from Northern Arizona University with a degree in Rhetoric and Creative Writing in 2015 and while there, she wrote for The Daily Wildcat. She has since written for sites including FanBread, and, of course, Bolde. You can find about more her on Facebook. She has a passion for giving her audience something to laugh about and despises the heat more than anything.