A Strong Woman Knows She Deserves These Things From A Relationship

A woman who’s done some serious work on herself has standards. They may seem incredibly high to the average person, but they’re just right. A strong woman will always demand the best from her relationships because she deserves these things and more:

  1. Emotional availability A strong woman wouldn’t settle for someone who can’t be there with her, someone whose mind is elsewhere. No, she wants someone who’s sorted through most of their baggage and is ready to be in the relationship with her, right here, right now.
  2. The ability to be vulnerable Opening up isn’t an easy feat. Being vulnerable takes courage, but so many people go their whole lives trying to avoid it. However, she knows that she deserves her partner to be raw with her. Getting real with one another is the best way to connect on a deep level. Her ideal partner would walk through their fear and right into vulnerability.
  3. Great communication This kind of woman wants someone who can meet her on her level. She’s a boss at communication and wants the same from her partner. She knows she can have it too. She makes sure when she’s first dating someone that she finds out how good their communication skills are. After all, it’s preferred to have someone who can tell her how they feel about her.
  4. Consistency A strong woman demands someone who’s unwavering. She isn’t interested in the person who’s wishy-washy and hot n’ cold. Rather, she’s into someone who’s consistent about their feelings for her. This person doesn’t have to be perfect—in fact, it’s impossible to be consistent 100% of the time, but they’re close.
  5. Willingness to own their crap Naturally, things are going to go wrong from time to time—that’s just life. Someone’s going to lose their temper or someone will pull away. Whatever it looks like, mistakes will be made. Being with someone isn’t a matter of never making mistakes, it’s about owning up to them and working to be better next time.
  6. Emotional intelligence To a strong woman, it’s no secret how important emotional intelligence is. In case you aren’t sure what this refers to, I mean someone who can manage their emotions well and has graceful interpersonal relationships. They’re super self-aware as well as aware of others. She knows when she interacts with a person like this, they’re awake. She knows they’re right there experiencing life with you.
  7. Supportive words and actions It’s one thing for a partner to tell her that they’re there for her and it’s another thing to show it. Words are great as long as they’re backed up by action. She wants someone who’ll not only congratulate her on something special but to be there to celebrate it.
  8. Passion Where’s the fun in a relationship without passion? Passionless love is hardly love at all. She knows that she can have a connection with someone and sustain that spark. It’s possible and it’s necessary. Having a passionate lover means you two still kiss deeply, express your love for one another, and do small thoughtful acts for each other. It lives on even when the relationship starts to mature.
  9. Self-love on both sides A wonderful lady practices self-love. She knows how to take care of herself and build up her own self-esteem. She’s a force all on her own. Naturally, she wants someone who can meet her here. This person should have a history of loving themselves. They should know how to self-soothe when times get rough and know how to do esteemable acts. Self-love on both sides will only make the pair stronger.
  10. Dedication I hate to keep talking about when things get rough, but that’s just the nature of relationships. Sometimes after a fight, people want to just run away. A strong woman has a partner who’s willing to stick around and talk it out. They’re dedicated to the relationship working out.
  11. Forgiveness The two of them are imperfect beings. It’s inevitable that someone messes something up. What’s important beyond working on herself is having forgiveness for both herself and her partner. It’s so easy for her to beat herself up like a maniac when something goes wrong that was probably her fault. She tries to put down the bat, however, knowing it’s not useful. Same goes for her partner, she tries not to be so hard on them because they’re doing the best they can. Of course, there are limits, but only she can know what hers are.
Ginelle has been writing professionally for more than six years and has a bachelor’s degree in digital marketing & design. Her writing has appeared on Birdie, Thought Catalog, Tiny Buddha and more. You can follow her on Instagram @ginelletesta, via her Facebook page, or through her website at ginelletesta.com.