I’m A Strong Woman But I’d Still Love To Have A Guy Take Care Of Me

Even though I’m about as independent as it gets, it doesn’t mean that I don’t love the idea of having a man who will take care of me. Lots of women pride themselves on not needing a guy to spoil them, but this is why I’m not ashamed to admit that I’m looking for my Prince Charming:

  1. I’m not a damsel in distress. I’m a woman who wants a real relationship, and there’s nothing wrong with that. Just because I don’t have huge mountains of issues or the inability to take care of myself doesn’t mean that I don’t want someone who will do things for me. It’s nice when someone tends to you because they want to, not because you need them to.
  2. I want to be taken care of. I’ve made it clear throughout my life that I can take care of myself. I don’t need to rely on others to get things done or get what I want. But that doesn’t mean I don’t want someone to sweep me off my feet and take care of me. It’s nice to feel as though someone has your back.
  3. I firmly believe in nature versus nurture. A person’s qualities are determined by their DNA, their experiences, or a combination of both, and that has a lot to do with why I want to be saved. I’ve always had to take care of myself in one way or another and that’s why I’ve developed such independence. Still, the woman in me wants to have a man there to tell me I don’t NEED to be so independent all the time.
  4. A guy who goes above and beyond for me will be a great family man. I’m not entirely sold on building a family, but that doesn’t change the fact that if I do end up having children, I know that a guy who acts like a knight in shining armor will be a great dad and husband. He’ll have no qualms with pulling his weight with children or the relationship because he’ll want to take care of things the best way he knows how.
  5. Who doesn’t like being taken care of? I’m confident in myself. I know that I’m unique and special in my own way, but those feelings are solidified when another person, especially someone I think so highly of, is willing to make sure that I never forget it. Being taken care of makes me feel appreciated, and who doesn’t want that?
  6. Allowing myself to rely on someone isn’t a weakness. Nor is it giving up my independence. Just because I know when I need help and will actually allow someone to give it to me doesn’t mean I’m any less strong or put-together.
  7. I’m still a hopeless romantic. A woman can be a badass that handles her own business and still want that fairytale love. The two aren’t mutually exclusive. I’ve watched Disney movies and rom-coms my whole life, and I have no problem with wanting that kind of relationship for myself.
  8. There’s nothing sexier than a man in control. A man that takes control over things is incredibly hot, at least in my eyes. I want to be swept up and carried away in a heap of muscular arms and chest hair after he makes all the decisions for date night, and that doesn’t make me any less of a boss bitch.
  9. Finding my Prince is a goal. And I’m not afraid to admit that. It doesn’t mean I’m pining away in a secluded tower waiting for him to show up so I can start my life, though. I live and I live well, but at the end of the day, there’s nothing I want more than true love with a good man.
  10. When was it decided that being saved was a bad thing? I’m not sure when women everywhere decided that being saved was terrible, but I’m calling BS. The very definition of the word save is “keep safe or rescue”, and although I don’t need to be rescued, I sure don’t mind it if someone I love goes above and beyond to keep me safe.
Angelica Bottaro has a bachelor’s degree in Psychology from Trent University and an Advanced Diploma in Journalism from Centennial College. She began her career as a freelance writer in 2014, racking up bylines in The Good Men Project, MakeWell, LymeTime, YouQueen, and more. She eventually shifted her focus and began writing about mental health, nutrition, and chronic disease for VeryWell Health.

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