10 Struggles Of Being A Girl Who Feels Too Much

You consider yourself a grown put together woman, but you’re also still a human being — and an emotional one at that. Unfortunately, that intensity of feeling doesn’t always go over well with guys you’re dating and you’ve been branded “too emotional” on more than one occasion. It sucks, but that’s only the beginning of your struggles.

  1. Wearing your heart on your sleeve means getting hurt a lot. When you feel something for a guy, you have to express it — you don’t know any other way to be. After all, if he doesn’t know you like him then you might never have a real chance with him. However, some guys just aren’t into the effusive emoting and even if they like you, they don’t really want to sit around talking feelings. Being so forthright about yours sometimes ends up scaring guys away and leaving you heartbroken.
  2. You follow your heart, not your head. Logic like that can get you into some serious trouble, at least in your dating life. The second you feel a spark, you put all your faith into it and the guy you feel it with, even if you just met. Instead of listening to your head or even your gut telling you he’s bad news bears, you ignore the red flags and fall for him anyway. If one thing’s for sure, it’s that following your heart is the best way to get it broken.
  3. You care a little too much. Who knew that was even possible? When you love someone, you love them with your whole heart. When it comes to love, you don’t do anything halfway — you’re all in or you’re not in at all because you don’t know any other way to do it. It’s all or nothing, and some men just can’t handle that. You love them too much, and somehow that’s a bad thing.
  4. Your emotions tend to make you a bit dramatic. You just can’t help but react (or overreact) when you feel something. When you’re happy, you’re ecstatic. When you’re sad, you’re devastated. You feel every emotion to the fullest and that’s not exactly an easy quality to deal with for yourself or for the guys you’re with. Uh oh.
  5. You’re extremely empathetic. Which means when others feel pain, you feel pain. You cry for your bestie’s broken heart and you turn on the waterworks every time you see the abused animals on that charity infomercial. This is generally a good thing, but it often means you try a bit too hard to understand people’s behavior even when the most obvious explanation is that the person you’re analyzing is a douchebag.
  6. People worry you’re unstable. Since you can cry at the drop of a hat, people worry there’s actually something mentally or emotionally wrong with you. They mention this in a joking way, but you know there’s a certain amount of truth behind it.
  7. It takes forever to get over a breakup. You don’t know how people just move on. You’ve never had a rebound in your life because you’d just end up crying to some random guy at the bar. You thought you’d be with your ex forever and you don’t know how to accept that was a dream that will never come true. You want to get over him, but you wouldn’t even know where to start. No matter what you do you can’t forget him. He’ll always have a piece of your heart.
  8. You take rejection personally. How could you not? If a guy turns you down, it’s because he’s not interested in you because you’re flawed, not because he’s not interested in dating in general. That sounds pretty personal and that’s why you take his rejection to heart. He doesn’t think you’re good enough for him and your own self-doubt won’t let you get over his disinterest, so you’re left with utter defeat.
  9. It’s very rare for you to have a little fight. Instead, every argument turns into a big blowout because you let your emotions get the best of you. You don’t mean to explode but you can’t help it. Every fight feels like the end of the world because you jump to the worst conclusion. A fight doesn’t mean a relationship is over, but you can’t help but worry that it could be.
  10. You’re terrified to fall in love. Yet you desperately crave affection. Falling in love means risking heartbreak and it almost destroyed you in the past. You loved the feeling of being in love but you hated the feeling of it ending. Your heart doesn’t know if it could go through that pain again, but at the same time, it doesn’t want anything more in life than true love. Your heart is at odds with itself and you’re just waiting to see which half wins out.
Kelsey Dykstra is a freelance writer based in Huntington Beach, CA. She has a bachelor’s degree in Creative Writing from Grand Valley State University and been writing professionally since graduating in 2013. In addition to writing about love and relationships for Bolde and lifestyle topics for Love to Know, she also writes about payment security and small business solutions for PaymentCloud.

Originally from Michigan, this warm weather seeker relocated to the OC just last summer. Kelsey enjoys writing her own fictional pieces, reading a variety of young adult novels, binging on Netflix, and of course soaking up the sun.

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