The Struggles Of Being The Only One In Your Friend Group With A Boyfriend

No one wants to be the only single person in their friend group, but it can be just as frustrating to be the only one in your group with a boyfriend. Single ladies can either be proud of their relationship statuses or bitter about them. If your friends fall into the latter category, then you’re going to have a lot of trouble when you become the one who couples up first.

  1. You don’t know if you should invite him out. You don’t want to ruin girl’s night by letting your boyfriend tag along. Of course, you don’t want him to feel left out and assume that all of your friends hate him, either. You have to find a way to make everyone comfortable, which can be pretty damn impossible when everyone has conflicting interests.
  2. You’re worried you sound like you’re bragging. If your friends had boyfriends, you wouldn’t mind bragging about the dates you went on and the presents your man bought you, because they could respond by bragging about their own mates. Of course, since all of your friends are single, you try not to brag about your boyfriend, because it’ll make you look like you think you’re better than them—which you’re clearly not.
  3. You have to choose between them. Your friends want to spend Valentine’s Day together, but you already have plans with your boyfriend. You don’t want to turn your gal pals down, but you already made a commitment to your man. It doesn’t matter whom you choose to spend the holidays with, because someone’s going to be mad at you.
  4. They hate that he’s all you talk about. When you’re in love, your man is the only thing you want to talk about. Of course, when you’re single, you don’t want anything to do with love. That’s why your friends can get annoyed by all of your stories about romantic dates and sensual kisses.
  5. It’s hard to play wingwoman. When your friends go to clubs to hit on strangers, your man might want you to stay home. Even if he’s okay with the idea of you dancing with other guys, you won’t be able to take any of them home. Sometimes, that can hurt your wingwoman credibility.
  6. They don’t understand why you see them less often. You don’t want to cut your friends out of your life completely when you get a boyfriend. Of course, you won’t be able to see them as often as you used to. After all, you have more people to fit into your schedule now. You’re not trying to desert them, but they won’t always understand that.
  7. They act like you’re a different person. When your friends complain about being single, and you try to console them, they’ll claim that you don’t understand their situation, because you’re in a relationship. Even though you’re the same person, they’ll treat you like you’re from another planet, just because of your relationship status.
  8. They won’t let you complain. If you talk about your grades slipping, your hopeless romantic friends will say, “At least you have a boyfriend.” They won’t want to hear any of your complaints, because they think that having a boyfriend automatically makes your life perfect, which is a ridiculous notion.
  9. You can’t go on double dates. You want your BFF to hang out with you and your boyfriend, but she hates being the third wheel. If she had a boyfriend, you could double date, but that’s not currently an option.
  10. They think you know everything about love. It’s nice to be the girl everyone goes to for advice. However, being in a relationship doesn’t make you a relationship expert. Sometimes, you won’t have any idea what to tell your friend about her situation, even though she’s begging you for help.
Holly Riordan is a writer from Long Island, New York who has authored several science fiction and horror books. A graduate of Stony Brook University, she has spent nearly a decade writing for publications including Thought Catalog, Huffington Post, Teen Vogue, and more. You can find her on Instagram @hollyrio and Twitter @hollyyrio.