The Struggles Of Being A Woman Who’s Happy Being Single

The Struggles Of Being A Woman Who’s Happy Being Single ©iStock/Eva-Katalin

Being single isn’t a death sentence, so everyone should stop treating it like one. You can live a fulfilling life with or without a man. If you’re happy the way things are, then there’s no reason for you to look for a date. Of course, that means you’ll have to deal with the BS struggles of being a girl who’s happy being single.

  1. No one believes you. You don’t mind being alone. In fact, you actually enjoy it. Of course, no one else will believe you, because they think you’re just trying to put on a brave face to hide the fact that you’re dying inside.
  2. Your success is ignored. When you talk about your big promotion, others will only be happy for you for a second. Then they’ll ask you if those extra hours you’re putting in is the reason why you haven’t found a boyfriend. Your career is more important than your love life, but they don’t seem to understand that.
  3. Friends insist on setting you up. All of your friends think that they’re matchmakers. They claim they know the perfect man for you and will encourage you to go out with him, even though you’ve made it clear you’re not interested.
  4. Your family isn’t happy with you. Even though you’re happy being single, that doesn’t mean your mother is happy for you. She wants grandchildren, so she’s hoping you’ll find a man to settle down with sooner rather than later. She wants to live to see those babies, after all.
  5. Men assume you want something more. It’s 2015. Sleeping with a man doesn’t mean that you want to date him. Of course, some men don’t understand that you just want sex (or that you made a momentary lapse in judgment) and will keep pestering you to go out with them again.
  6. You can’t have male friends. If you post a picture of yourself with a man online, or simply mention a male coworker in a conversation, then everyone will accuse you of liking him. Even if he already has a girlfriend, they’ll push you to make a move on him, because they “just want you to be happy.”
  7. You’re always the third wheel. Even though you’re happy to be single, it’s frustrating to be the only one in your friend group who’s unattached. As much as you love your friends’ boyfriends, you wish they’d leave them home every once in a while so you could have a girl’s night out.
  8. Everyone assumes you’re living a crazy life. Some of your married friends will tell you how jealous they are of you, because you get to drink and go to clubs every weekend. Of course, you still have responsibilities. You aren’t out having fun 24/7. Your idea of fun is staying home and watching Netflix, anyway.
  9. You can’t escape couples. It’s rare for a movie to end without two characters in a happy relationship. Of course, there’s so much more to life, which is why you wish the plot would focus more on a woman’s career and family than on her love interest.
  10. You’re accused of being a bitch. When you constantly turn down men, you’ll be accused of being selfish, bitchy, and cold. Of course, there’s nothing wrong with you for wanting to remain single. It’s a life choice that you shouldn’t let others insult you over. Do what makes you the happiest.
Holly Riordan is a writer from Long Island, New York who has authored several science fiction and horror books. A graduate of Stony Brook University, she has spent nearly a decade writing for publications including Thought Catalog, Huffington Post, Teen Vogue, and more. You can find her on Instagram @hollyrio and Twitter @hollyyrio.