The Struggles Of Dating As An Overly Emotional Woman

The Struggles Of Dating As An Overly Emotional Woman ©iStock/stock_colors

Dating is hard enough when you’re not someone who has a hard time managing their emotions. If you’re someone who is super in-touch with your feelings at any given moment, there can be some challenges:

  1. You get attached easily. That cute boy in your class was a stranger yesterday, but today he gave you a compliment on your dress, so you’re already falling in love with him. You can’t help yourself. As soon as anyone shows the slightest bit of interest in you, you become invested. It’s a curse, really.
  2. You can’t talk when you’re upset. When your boyfriend asks you why you’re mad at him, it’s hard to look him in the eye. You’re not even that angry with him, but your emotions get the best of you. You won’t be able to explain yourself without bursting into tears.
  3. Little things make you jealous. You know it doesn’t mean anything when your boyfriend watches your waitress walk away, but that doesn’t matter. That little gesture is going to activate your jealousy. You won’t be able to think straight for the rest of the day, because you’ll be wondering if he’d rather be with her than you.
  4. You can’t pretend you’re fine. Sometimes, you get upset over silly little things. Of course, you can’t act like they never happened, because your boyfriend will never believe that you’re fine. Your expression will give your annoyance away.
  5. No one cares when you cry. You don’t want to be the boy who cried wolf, but you can’t help it. Whenever a sad movie comes on, you cry. Whenever a happy movie comes on, you cry. You cry so often that your boyfriend stops thinking anything of it.
  6. You overthink everything. If it takes your crush two hours to text you back, you’ll create a mental list of all of the reasons why he isn’t responding (all of which involve him hating your guts). When that message finally arrives, you’ll try to analyze each word he typed to figure out exactly what was on his mind when he sent it.
  7. Your face gives your feelings away. It’s impossible for you to play hard to get, because whenever you start crushing on a guy, he knows it. All of your blushing and flirting will make your feelings obvious. There’s no mystery when it comes to you and your heart.
  8. Your friends don’t believe you’re in love. You’re a hopeless romantic, so whenever you start to date someone, you think that you’re in love. Of course, when your friends hear that you’ve met “the one” for the tenth time, they aren’t going to believe you. They just don’t understand your intense emotions.
  9. You can’t console him when he cries. When your boyfriend needs a shoulder to cry on, you’re there for him. Of course, seeing him cry will make you cry. That means that you aren’t going to put him in a better mood. You might actually make it worse.
  10. You cry over guys who don’t deserve it. You know that the guy who went on one date with you and then didn’t call you back isn’t worth your tears, but you’re going to cry over him anyway. It’s therapeutic, really.
Holly Riordan is a writer from Long Island, New York who has authored several science fiction and horror books. A graduate of Stony Brook University, she has spent nearly a decade writing for publications including Thought Catalog, Huffington Post, Teen Vogue, and more. You can find her on Instagram @hollyrio and Twitter @hollyyrio.