The Struggles Of Being A Woman Who’s Always Horny

Constantly being horny is expected of guys, but it’s a lot harder to be a woman who’s almost always ready to go. Unfortunately, our society is permeated with unfair judgments about women who have a high sex drive, and those judgments affect us more often than you would think. Here are some of the struggles we face:

We know we’re “supposed” to make a guy wait to test his commitment, but we have a hard time waiting ourselves.

Sex is an important part of a relationship, and it’s usually awkward at first. As soon as we’re dating someone new that we actually like, we can’t help that our minds automatically start thinking about sex. In many cases, we’re not capable of holding out long enough to make any kind of impression on a guy because we want it, too.

When we get into a relationship with someone who doesn’t want sex as often as we do, we wonder what’s wrong with us.

It’s a common misconception that men always want sex, while we’re innocent little flowers who only do it for his pleasure. I shouldn’t need to tell you that’s BS, but just in case you weren’t aware, it is. It sucks when you like everything about a guy, but he’s not rising to the occasion as often as you’d like and or isn’t as enthusiastic. Our society’s been permeated with this double standard for so long, however, that we actually start to doubt our own normalcy

We live in a world of so much slut-shaming.

Actually, in churches, it’s called counseling, but it’s the same thing. It’s great that waiting for marriage worked for you, but not all of us want that kind of life. We know that the desire is perfectly normal, an instinctual urge similar to getting hungry or thirsty. Stop judging; just live and let live.

Work is not the time or place for random fantasies, but they happen anyway.

Nope, not even we innocent flowers are free from random fantasies. Unlike guys, our struggle isn’t physically evident, but that doesn’t make it less annoying or distracting. They tend to become more common the longer we go without getting any action, so it’s a problem that can be easily solved for people in relationships, but a bit more complicated for single folks.

The disappointment is real when you give a guy a chance but he fails to please you.

We’re really not trying to be impossible to please, but we don’t get to choose what pleases us any more than you do. If we give a guy the time of day and he fails to get us to the final destination, we still have to get off because that’s just how it works – so we end up having to take matters into our own hands, so to speak.

The frustration builds when you’re single, busy, and it’s hard to get alone time.

Whether you have roommates constantly around, house guests that overstay their welcome, or you just have such a busy schedule that you pass out as soon as you get home, it sucks when you’re not having as much “me time” as you need. People mean well, but sometimes we need to disconnect from them and meet our own needs with no distractions. Being a horny woman ain’t easy, that’s for sure.

We’re justifiably pissed off when guys think we’re not serious girlfriend material because we didn’t play the waiting game.

Guys, come on now. It’s 2015, and being a prude is no longer highly regarded as an admirable trait, nor does it say anything about our moral fiber. You should be glad we’re down for some (safe) fun, but still get to know us and respect us as much as any other woman.

The never-ending eye roll when our friends complain about their boyfriends/husbands trying to get it in every night.

I’m sorry, but that doesn’t sound like a terrible problem to have, supposing you actually like your significant other. If you’re repulsed by him, you shouldn’t be with him anyway, and if it’s just a really stressful time when you’re not in the mood, maybe a mood booster is just what you need. Either way, that complaint sounds ridiculous to us because you can never be too rich, too beautiful, or have too many orgasms. It’s just not possible.

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