The Struggles Of Being The Only Single Girl In Your Friend Group

The Struggles Of Being The Only Single Girl In Your Friend Group ©iStock/filadendron

We’ve all been single at some point. Being in between relationships is a necessary part of life, and there’s tons to appreciate about not having a significant other to worry about. Although your current relationship status, good or bad, is a burden you have to bear all on your own, it’s always nice if you have a friend or two in the same boat – that way you have someone to roll your eyes at mushy couples with, and complain about how terrible guys today are at dating. On the flip side, the times you happen to find yourself single while all your friends are in relationships can be particularly depressing. If you’ve ever been in this position, you’ll totally relate to the following:

  1. Always being the odd one out. You can’t attend game night because you never have a partner. You’re always the one that has to sit at a random chair pulled up to the end of the booth. And you always end up next to an old dude or some kid on every roller coaster.
  2. Forced set ups. You’re single, not desperate. What makes people think you want to go out on an awkward date with every single guy they’ve ever met? You can find dates on your own just fine, thanks.
  3. Always the bridesmaid, never the bride. Casual dating leads to exclusively dating leads to a serious relationship leads to getting engaged leads to you being in way too many weddings to count in the next couple years.
  4. Your wing woman is no longer up for anything. She’ll still go out, but she’ll be so distracted texting her boyfriend all night and trying to meet up with him later that she won’t be of much use to you.
  5. Seeing everyone in love makes you feel more lonely. Not that you aren’t happy for them, but when everyone close to you has a significant other it just emphasizes the fact that you don’t.
  6. People say things like, “You’ll meet someone when you least expect it.” For some reason, people in relationships tend to forget all the cringeworthy things they hated hearing when they were single, and they just can’t resist passing on those pearls of wisdom to you in your time of need.
  7. Witnessing awkward PDA. They’re so in love that they can’t keep their hands off each other. You get it. Doesn’t mean their public make outs don’t make you want to puke a little bit.
  8. You’re always taking their picture for yet another Instagram post. Is this the only reason you two invited me along? You wanted some full body shots to break up all of those just-your-heads selfies you’ve been posting?
  9. You have to plan way ahead if you want to see your friends without their boyfriends. Being in a relationship means their weekends are booked from here to infinity, and you should feel lucky if you can squeeze a coffee date into their packed couple’s schedule.
  10. You have to listen to them complain about their relationships. They had some pointless fight about whose turn it was to fold the laundry, and they’ll say something like “you’re so lucky you’re single!” while you sigh and swipe through a few more weirdos on Tinder.
  11. They all want to live through your single girl experiences. Every night out devolves into who can get the most matches using your Tinder. Then they all go home to their respective significant others, and you have to embark on the great unmatch fest of 2015.
By day, Courtney is a digital marketing copywriter living in Toronto, Canada. By night, she's a freelance lifestyle writer who, in addition to, contributes regularly to, IN Magazine, and SheBlogs Canada. Want to chat about relationships, Stephen King or your favorite true crime podcast/documentary/book? She's on Twitter @courtooo.