The Struggles Of Being A Woman Who Always Has An Opinion

It’s not that you like the sound of your own voice, it’s that you just can’t help but have an opinion on every subject under the sun. You know how you feel and what you think and you want to express it, but being someone who always has something to say about everything isn’t easy — here’s why:

  1. You can come off as a bitch. Feminism might be on the rise, but women are hardly treated equally just yet. If you’re too headstrong, you’ll automatically be labeled as a bitch by men who are threatened by that (and some women too). It might be an ignorant label, but it can sting all the same. At the end of the day, you have to keep being you, but that doesn’t mean it’s not hard sometimes.
  2. So many people are very easily offended. When you’re opinionated, it’s easy to see that you’re living in a world full of overly sensitive people. Everyone is offended by something and that’s made so many people afraid to speak the truth. That’s all you want, though — for others to be honest with you. While another woman might get angry if a man tells her that those jeans do make her look fat, you’re actually thankful that he saved you from buying expensive pants that just don’t flatter you.
  3. You tend to think you’re always right. It’s not that you can’t admit when you’re wrong; it’s that you value your opinion too much to see other perspectives sometimes. People hate to be wrong, and that’s definitely the case for you. You’re not always right, but acting like you are can turn a lot of men away. You try to get your stubborn nature under control, but it’s definitely a struggle.
  4. You hate when someone doesn’t take your advice. You know that your friends, family, co-workers and significant other aren’t always going to listen to your advice, but you wish they would. You always have valuable input (at least in your own mind) and you love to give it. It’s the best way you know to help a friend. You might not always be right, but at the end of the day, you really do have their best interest at heart, even if they can’t always see that.
  5. You need someone who agrees with you. At least when it comes to the big stuff. If you’re opinionated, then your beliefs are pretty damn important to you. You don’t hate everyone who disagrees; you’d just prefer to be with a man who does agree, someone who sees life the same way you do. It makes life and your relationship a hell of a lot easier. After all, who wants to spend all their time fighting?
  6. You’re a pro fighter. You may not have become a lawyer, but it wasn’t because you don’t know how to argue. It feels so damn good to tell someone else what you really think, but unfortunately, that doesn’t make them want to hear it. You actually love hearing other opinions and being part of a debate, but that doesn’t mean everyone else loves it like you do.
  7. You hurt a lot of people’s feelings. It doesn’t matter if it’s accidental — it still makes you feel like a total jerk. When you’re opinionated, you tend to build a thick armor for yourself. With thick skin like yours, it takes a lot for someone to actually offend you. You forget that other people are more sensitive than you, though. When your big mouth hurts someone’s feelings, you wish you could take those words back or at least explain yourself so you can both feel better.
  8. Not everyone wants to hear it. You’re used to voicing your opinion and you actually like when other people voice theirs. Unfortunately, not everyone feels the way you do. You can’t expect people to agree with your opinion, but it’s hard when they don’t care enough to at least respect it.
  9. You don’t really have a filter. Sometimes it’s hard for you to take the time to think before you speak. You just want to be able to speak your mind without offending anyone in the process. You live for the truth, but the rest of the world hides from it. You don’t sugar coat and you wish you didn’t have to apologize for just being honest. At the end of the day, you really do have the best intentions, even if others can’t see that.
Kelsey Dykstra is a freelance writer based in Huntington Beach, CA. She has a bachelor’s degree in Creative Writing from Grand Valley State University and been writing professionally since graduating in 2013. In addition to writing about love and relationships for Bolde and lifestyle topics for Love to Know, she also writes about payment security and small business solutions for PaymentCloud.

Originally from Michigan, this warm weather seeker relocated to the OC just last summer. Kelsey enjoys writing her own fictional pieces, reading a variety of young adult novels, binging on Netflix, and of course soaking up the sun.

You can find more about Kelsey on her LinkedIn profile or on Twitter @dykstrakelsey.