Subconscious Signs A Man Likes You (Even If He Doesn’t Realize It)

Have you been waiting around for him to come out and say that he likes only to be left in a perpetual state of uncertainty? Luckily, people who are harboring a “secret” crush betray their feelings constantly. If he’s doing these 11 things, these are pretty clear subconscious signs this man likes you.

  1. He texts you… a lot. When you’re looking at it objectively, you have to admit that he texts you more than a friend would. You always have a conversation going, and just when you think you’ve concluded one, he finds a way to start another. You’re the first person he thinks of when he sees a funny meme, and sometimes he just texts to say hi. Communication without a clear purpose is a sign that a person likes you but hasn’t figured out how to express it yet.
  2. He worries about you. He insists on walking you to your door when you go home at night and shows genuine concern when you talk about scary or unpleasant experiences you’ve had. Sometimes, it’s as if he’s taking on a parental role, asking if you’ve had enough sleep or need food. He is always reminding you to take care of your well-being and is there for you if you need help.
  3. He finds excuses to touch you. His physical instincts sometimes get the better of his judgment. You’ve noticed that the two of you have touched each other more than normal lately. Whether it’s an “accidental” brush of your feet under the table or a pat on your hand or back, he’s made physical contact with you in ways that seem inconsequential in isolation but are definitely more frequent than they are with other people.
  4. He always picks you out of a crowd. Whenever you’re in a group setting, you often find yourself next to him. When he knows you’re there, he seeks you out and finds an excuse to talk to you one-on-one. It isn’t rude or possessive, but it has happened enough times that you can identify it as a pattern. Even when you’re separated, you catch his eye across the crowded room. No matter where you are, he is drawn to you.
  5. He tries to impress you. Sometimes, eagerness and insecurity can look a lot like arrogance. If he has a lot to say about his skills and accomplishments when you’re around, he’s either narcissistic or trying to impress you (or both). Men tend to boast when they like someone but feel subconsciously inferior.
  6. He’s your number one fan on social media. He may not be able to tell you that he likes you in person, but he’s “liking” you constantly on social media. Every time you post, he’s one of the first people to respond. Being behind a screen gives him the courage to be more open about his interest, and even if he isn’t sliding into your DMs, his attention to your feed is clear from all the “likes” he sends your way.
  7. He is your number one fan IRL. He shows his interest in real life, too. He doesn’t say that he’s into you, but he shows his support by cheering you on, affirming your ideas, and complimenting you whenever he gets the chance. You may think he’s just an extremely supportive friend, but pay attention to how he treats other people he’s close to and you’ll probably notice that he’s treating you differently.
  8. He asks you personal questions. He isn’t just being nosy–he wants to know about you. Even if you consider yourselves friends, his questions sometimes cross the line, though not necessarily in a bad way. He asks about your dating life, what you’re looking for in a partner, and what makes you fall in love with someone. These questions may trickle in over time, making them easy to dismiss. Looking back, however, you’re noticing a pattern.
  9. He blushes. Blushing is an involuntary manifestation of emotion that does not lie. It occurs in various situations, such as when a person experiences shame or embarrassment. However, it also occurs when a person feels sexually attracted to the person they’re interacting with and has a surge of self-consciousness or fear that they are giving themselves away. If he blushes when you make eye contact with him, you can be pretty sure that he’s trying to hide a not-so-secret crush.
  10. You can feel his eyes on you when you’re not looking at him. His eyes are attracted to you like a magnet. He can’t help looking your in direction even though he knows it might betray his feelings. When you’re around, his attraction to you overwhelms his desire to stay cool. He thinks that he can get away with looking at you when you’re not looking at him, but you can feel it.
  11. He’s always around. In the same way that he can’t keep his eyes off you, he can’t seem to pry himself away from you, either. He may not even be aware of his crush on you, but his constant presence by your side at parties, at the office, or wherever you share common territory is a strong indication of his feelings. And it isn’t just physical either. Whenever you need emotional or mental support, he’s there.
Rose Nolan is a writer and editor from Austin, TX who focuses on all things female and fabulous. She has a Bachelor of Arts in Theater from the University of Surrey and a Master's Degree in Law from the University of Law. She’s been writing professional since 2015 and, in addition to her work for Bolde, she’s also written for Ranker and Mashed. She's published articles on topics ranging from travel, higher education, women's lifestyle, law, food, celebrities, and more.