Take It From A Man — Strong Women Are Seriously Hot

Sure, there are some insecure guys out there who can’t handle strong, independent women, but those of us who have our acts together know that ballsy women are literally the best. Here’s why you drive us crazy in the best possible way:

  1. You’re confident AF. You know who you are, you’re comfortable with that and you’d never apologize for it. Once that’s out of the way, nothing else really matters that much. If people like you, that’s great, if not, that’s okay too. It’s not your problem, and that’s really hot.
  2. You don’t take any BS – from anyone. If some player tries to screw you over, you do NOT put up with it. If some pretentious waiter tries to ignore you and talk to me instead of you, you interject. If your colleague takes credit for your work and tries to pass it off as their own you call them out. Plus, you keep us firmly and securely in line. What’s not to love about that attitude?
  3. You know what you want. And you’re working hard on getting it. You have goals and you know what you need to do to achieve them, which is absolutely brilliant. We LOVE women who are driven to achieve. Still, it’s not all about the big stuff — you have no problems making decisions on a day-to-day level too. For example, when we ask, “Hey, where do you want to go for dinner tonight?” you respond with a firm answer, not just, “Oh, wherever you want.” It’s pretty refreshing not to have to be the one in charge all the time.
  4. You’re not afraid to disagree. Disagreement and deep discussion are the best kinds of conversations. I don’t mean that we want to argue all the time, but what we DO love is when you stand by what you say and think even if it’s completely different from us. There’s no equivocating and no trying to keep the peace by pretending you don’t have a preference. You do know, and you’re not afraid to say.
  5. We don’t have to worry about you playing mind games. There’s nothing worse than tiptoeing around someone because you don’t really have open and clear communication. With confident, ballsy women, we don’t have to worry about you playing mind games or saying one thing and meaning another. You say what you mean and mean what you say. We like that.
  6. You take the lead when we’re having sex. It’s nice being taken aside and having your clothes ripped off! Maybe after you’ll even be the big spoon. That doesn’t mean we can’t switch it up and take charge in the bedroom sometimes, but it’s pretty sexy when you do it.
  7. Communication is so much easier. When you’re confident in yourself, you can just say what’s on your mind. Instead of trying to let us know that you’re not interested with body language, you just say, “Actually, you know what? This isn’t working for me.” Sounds harsh, but at least then it’s clear to everyone what you feel. It saves us all the awkward unpleasantness of crossed wires.
  8. We understand your expectations because you make them really clear. We know what you expect and how you expect to be treated. Why? Because you come right out and TELL us. We don’t need to try and figure it out on our own, and we don’t need to try and guess if something is kosher or not. Plus, when you’re open with your expectations (and we’re open with ours), it cuts out all the perceived misunderstanding. If you tell us what you want straight up, we can’t turn around and say we didn’t know you felt that way.
  9. Ballsy, confident women are up for adventure. Being up to trying new things, exploring the world, and having an amazing time doing it is pretty high on my must-have list when I go on dates. I think it’s fair to say that’s true for most other people. When you’ve got the confidence to be yourself, you’re a lot more open to what the world has to offer – and adventures just seem to roll at you. It’s exciting and keeps things fresh.
  10. You’re a lot of fun. That’s what this all really comes down to. Most guys are alike in one way – we want to date women who are 100 percent up for just owning who they are and what they want. There are no games, communication is simple and straightforward, we always know what you’re after and where your headspace is at and where you want to be. And with all the extra energy of having a relationship based on simple, straightforward communication, you have all sorts of extra energy for vigorous sex and extracurricular adventuring. Sometimes, we can even do them together.
Spencer is a freelance writer who loves writing articles that are fun to read and easy to understand. When he's not writing, he's usually listening to podcasts and traveling the world searching for the elusive perfect croissant.