How to Take the High Road After a Breakup

How to Take the High Road After a Breakup ©iStock/Mucella

After a breakup, it can be awfully temping to give in to your anger and frustration — to maybe throw a tantrum or two and generally lash out. But we all know that’s not the best way to cope. Sure, for a hot five minutes, the idea of TP’ing his house like a crazed kid on Halloween sounds like a great idea, but is that the direction you really wanna go? Probably not. It’s always better to take the high road, even when it seems like the hardest thing to do. So how do you do it?

  1. Delete him from your social media accounts. If you think deleting him from Facebook or blocking him on Instagram is too extreme, then just ignore him to the best of your ability. You don’t want to be tempted by reading his updates. Especially if one of his updates is a photo of him with his new fiancée.
  2. Wish him well. If you ended on good terms (or even just not terrible terms), then send him a short email letting him know that you wish him well. If you only dated for like, a week, this isn’t necessary, obviously.
  3. Boost your confidence. If you wanna hold your head high, you’re gonna need some confidence. There are lots of ways to boost your confidence. Write a list of your favorite qualities about yourself, and don’t feel silly for doing it. Take a look at your achievements in your life, both big and small. Give yourself permission to be happy and confident. You deserve it.
  4. Move on with your life. Nothing says, “I’m over you” like living your best life. Focus on what’s important to you. Don’t let anything else get in your way. What do they say — something about how living well is the best revenge? Yeah, do that!
  5. Resist the urge to talk crap. No matter what happened or who said what, resist the urge to damage your ex’s reputation, unless he’s a known abuser or something. Otherwise, you’re just being petty.
  6. Ignore, ignore, ignore. Ignore your ex, ignore the haters, ignore anyone who doesn’t understand. And the thing is, you don’t need to explain yourself or your situation — you don’t need to explain stuff. If someone doesn’t understand your breakup or what went down or why, that’s their problem, not yours.
  7. Pamper yourself. If you pamper yourself, you’ll actually feel better about yourself. And your goal here is to make yourself feel as badass as possible. So paint up your nails, queue up that workout video, then soak in a hot one, because this is all about you right now, and that’s okay.
  8. Stay calm. You’re gonna need a level-headed, cool demeanor if you’re gonna make it through this. No matter what inner turmoil is happening inside, push back. Totally have your moment of screaming and sadness, and then forge on. This is where all those BS “Keep Calm, Carry On” posters come into play. This is when you need to truly keep calm and carry on. You can do it!
Almie Rose is a writer from Los Angeles, California. Her favorite thing to do is eat, sleep, and repeat. If you enjoy reading about dating and Los Angeles and pop culture, check out her book, "I Forgot To Be Famous."