A great boyfriend, a new job, more money — even if you had that one thing you think would turn your life around, you’d probably find something else to stress about. The truth is that in order to be happy, you need to focus on the present as much as possible, do your best to live an emotionally healthy life. Here are some things to try:
- Break the cycle of negativity. Have you ever noticed that, after hearing someone go off on a tirade, you too feel worked up and pessimistic? Negativity is contagious, so be careful not to catch it. Sure, we all have to vent once in a while but, when you surround yourself with someone who’s always complaining, you’ll find yourself being a Negative Nancy, too. Break the cycle and embrace positivity!
- Don’t allow yourself to be discouraged. Sh*t happens and most things don’t work out the way you intend them to. That’s a universal fact of life — but don’t be discouraged just because something isn’t panning out the way you had hoped it would. Instead, focus on what you can do to turn it around.
- Master the art of adaption. When things do go wrong you need to roll with the punches. Being resilient is one of the most valuable character traits to master and will help you get through anything life throws your way.
- Accept others, no matter how different they are from yourself. We’re all guilty of being way too critical of others and passing judgment. No one is flawless. Rather than focusing on a person’s imperfections, celebrate the things you love about them. Open your mind — it might just enrich your life.
- Edit out toxic relationships. Yes, I know I said you should accept people for who they are (and you should!), but that sometimes means accepting that a person isn’t good for you. If you’re friends with someone who does nothing but bring you down and cause you stress, is your relationship with them really adding to your life? Toxic people like narcissists and frenemies are just not worth the energy they require.
- Value your integrity. Never sacrifice your integrity in order to climb the career ladder or maintain a relationship. Sure, you may get what you want, but will you really be happy if you’re unable to sleep at night? Know your values, stay true to your morals, and set boundaries. You’ll be a lot happier when you are able to look at yourself in the mirror.
- Realize the source of your happiness. The only person on this planet who can make you feel complete is you. Don’t trick yourself into thinking that any man, career, or possessions will make you feel whole. Focus on yourself, follow your passions and do the things that truly make you happy.
- Go after what you want. Rather than being miserable about what you don’t have, be proactive in going after what you want. Life doesn’t hand you opportunities; you have to make things happen. Have an awful roommate? Move out. Hate your job? Take the steps necessary to score a better one. Sitting around and feeling miserable hasn’t gotten you very far — get out there and make your own happiness!