Why It Takes Amazing Women So Much Longer To Find Love

Why It Takes Amazing Women So Much Longer To Find Love ©iStock/AleksandarNakic

We know great guys are out there somewhere because we see them matching up with other women all the time. It’s easy to be happy for your friends when it happens to them, but if you’re an amazing woman with a lot to give, it can feel confusing to see love pass you by time and time again. Don’t worry — it’s really not your fault.

  1. First of all, science. On average, women’s brains develop three years faster than men’s. It’s not our fault that our brains are working at an emotionally advanced state until things have a chance to even out around age 25. Sometimes you just have to wait it out and give up on love until your peers have had a chance for their brains to finish forming.
  2. We don’t settle. Mature women know their own worth, and they’re not willing to settle for less. This means we may need to wait it out on the relationship market for a while longer than those who might be more insecure and ready to take whatever comes along. Think of this as a strength, not a weakness. It means we’re less likely to fall into a bad relationship along the way to our happily ever after.
  3. We’re busy being awesome. Seriously, we’re on the go with our careers and family and friends. We’re working hard to make the life we want happen, so we may not have as much time to spend trolling Tinder for the least-creepy-looking dude on there. That doesn’t make us ineligible, it really just means we’re busy.
  4. We’re intimidating. Now, this isn’t a bad thing. It’s more like a weeding system for foolish guys. If they’re intimidated by a woman who’s got her act together, well, you don’t want to give them the time of day anyway. I’m tired of “intimidating” being an insult levied at women. It’s good to be intimidating! It means you’re crazy amazing.
  5. We know what we want. And it’s not like we’re in a rush to lower our standards. If we’ve got high expectations for all the other areas in our lives, why should we lower them for love? We don’t need to waste time dating around with anyone who asks if we already know what we’re looking for.
  6. We’ve got lives full of love already. Chances are, if you’re an amazing woman, the people in your life know it. We’re ready to be great friends, sisters, and daughters, so we’ve got a network of love around us already in place. This means we’re not desperate to find it elsewhere.
  7. We’re exceptional. Amazing women are special, and we know it. Not in braggy way, but just as a fact. This means we’re far less likely to worry about finding love; we’ve got confidence that it’ll happen when it’s meant to. Also, being wonderful means you’ve got to find a wonderful match, and they’re rare like you are. Give it the time it needs to grow.
Becca Rose is a writer with high hopes for her student loan debt. She's a musician and aspiring novelist, but don't ask her to write poetry, because she's terrible at it. She has written for HelloGiggles, The Toast, The Huffington Post, and more. You can find her on Twitter @bookbeaut