If He’s Taking You For Granted, He’s Not Boyfriend Material, He’s Breakup Material

Being taken for granted in a relationship is frustrating to say the least, especially when you’re the one trying to hold it together. It’s hard to walk away from something that was so good at the beginning, but it’s not your responsibility to fix something that he destroyed. If he’s doing any of these things, it’s probably time to walk away.

  1. He always takes ages to respond to a text. It takes a few seconds to read a message and send one back. So if a few hours—or worse, a few days—go by without a response, that’s a pretty clear sign that he’s losing interest and you shouldn’t pursue him anymore.
  2. He’s flaky. Whenever you arrange plans, he always cancels at the last minute and instead he suggests that you reschedule. You feel let down but each time you hope that he sticks to his word. When it starts becoming a pattern, and the guy seems to be making excuses after excuses, it’s time to call it quits!
  3. He insults you and then immediately plays it off as a joke. One thing you should always remember is that if a guy makes you feel bad about yourself, he’s not someone you want in your life. And if he blames you for taking offense to his “jokes” then make sure you put him in his place ASAP. It’s really not okay and it probably means that he’s very insecure.
  4. He makes you feel emotionally and physically exhausted. You’re sacrificing your happiness for this relationship because you are not ready to let go. It’s also impacting other aspects of your life—work, family, friendships. It’s safe to say that you would be better off without that negative influence.
  5. He doesn’t care about your opinion at all. Instead of consulting you about something, he goes ahead and makes plans without giving you a second thought. When this starts happening regularly, he is certainly taking you for granted. He assumes that you’re always going to be available and it’s not fair to make assumptions without at least asking.
  6. He lets his friends treat you with little respect. A major red flag is how his friends react when they’re around you. It’s one thing for him to hang around with people that disrespect you but if he doesn’t come to your defense, that boy isn’t worth it!
  7. He never makes you a top priority. There’s always something that takes priority over you. Can you recognize the pattern? He’s working until late, he’s going out with friends, he feels really sick all of a sudden or there’s some kind of family emergency. Even though you always have time for him, it’s often unreciprocated and that’s how he’s going to lose you.
  8. He never tells you anything. Whenever you ask him where he’s going or what he’s doing, he can get defensive about it even though it’s just a simple question. Even a simple thing like maintaining a conversation feels like a hard task because of his inability to open up to you about anything. Does he even know how relationships work? Probably not.
  9. He doesn’t ask you any personal questions. When you’re in a relationship, you never stop finding out new things about the other person. You have this interest to ask them questions so you can understand them on a more personal level. If he stops making an effort to know more about you, it’s a sign that he’s stopped caring.
  10. He makes you feel lonely and neglected. He doesn’t make you feel safe and his arms definitely don’t feel like home. In fact, he doesn’t make you feel any of the things you’re supposed to feel when you’re in love. It makes you question whether you really do love him, or whether it’s a relationship based on convenience. You don’t need an excuse to end it, if you’re not happy, then that’s a good enough reason to leave.
  11. He expects you to meet his needs but he fails to meet your expectations. The most selfish thing a person can do in a relationship is to give nothing but expect something back and that’s exactly what this guy is doing. He won’t realize just what he’s lost until you’ve had enough and decide to walk away.
  12. He doesn’t do any of the things he did at the start of the relationship. To put it simply, he doesn’t care about the relationship anymore. At the start, he knew how to impress you and most importantly, he reminded you that he loved you. He never says the words he used to and neither does he make any form of gesture to show that you still mean something to him. If it feels like he’s given up, take it as a hint to move on and find someone who can give you the love you deserve.
Coralle is a freelance writer with an interest in relationships, women's health and parenting. In her free time, she enjoys reading, watching new Netflix shows and spending time with family.