The More I Talk To People In Relationships, The Happier I Am To Be Single

Love and dating aren’t always all they’re cracked up to be. Oftentimes, the people I know who are “happily” taken are secretly the most miserable of all. Listening to them reminds me that I don’t have it so bad with my single freedom and independence. In fact, it actually kind of makes me grateful to be on my own.

  1. I’m finally over my last breakup, so I’m happy single. Yeah, being single sucks when you’re still mourning your relationship. You miss everything pretty much constantly. It takes a long time to completely adjust, but now that I’m over him, I remember how awesome it is to be single and answer to no one! It’s a freedom I’m happy to have at the moment.
  2. I honestly enjoy being single. I have moments when I crave companionship, just like anyone else. The truth about me, though, is that I really like doing stuff alone. I like to travel alone, I like to hike alone, I even like to watch movies alone. I don’t have to stress out about what someone else is thinking or feeling or needing that way.
  3. My friends are always complaining to me. If I could reclaim all the minutes I’ve spent listening to girls bitch about their boyfriends, I would have a lot of extra time on my hands. It hasn’t changed much, except now they’re bitching about their fiances or husbands. I know very few people who are in relationships that are happy enough that they never complain to me.
  4. Listening to their troubles reminds me of my past unhappiness. Every time I feel nostalgic for a past boyfriend, a conversation with one of my friends gives me a much-needed reality check. It reminds me of all the crappy times, the fights, the troubles, and the crying. It reminds me that I’m always happier on my own.
  5. The benefits of being single outweigh the downfalls. I’ve spent a lot of unhappy, dissatisfied days in relationships. I simply don’t have many of those when I’m single. I’m independent, focused, and excited to develop my life the way I want. I can focus entirely on what I need. I derive a great deal of personal satisfaction from living that way.
  6. I don’t miss all the issues. Oh man. I know I just haven’t met the right guy or had the right relationship, but damn, I don’t miss all the compromise and conflict! I hope that someday some man is worth it to me, because so far, not so much. I always end up feeling like I’m getting the crappy end of the bargain. I hate having those deep long stupid conversations about all the problems my boyfriend and I are having.
  7. I don’t want to compromise like my taken friends do. Frankly, it seems like a whole lot of trouble for not much reward. Some people say they are happy to do so, and I believe them… most of the time. That just isn’t me. Someday perhaps I’ll understand what they’re talking about. So far, it hasn’t happened.
  8. Most of my taken friends don’t seem that happy. There are exceptions, but this is the general trend I’ve noticed. They complain to me constantly and even if they justify the behavior of their significant others, I can see through all that. They’re trying to backtrack because they know that they’ll probably stay with whichever loser they’re dating — and they know I’ll call them out on the BS. I’m over it. I don’t pacify their behavior anymore. We’re too old for that crap.
  9. Even the happy ones have to deal with stuff that I don’t envy. I don’t want all those mainstays of a content relationship. I don’t want to get complacent, or lazy, or gain weight, or settle in the same city for the rest of my life. I want to travel and explore and adventure and stay on my toes constantly. Some of my friends are perfectly content to settle down, have a family, and build a career and a life somewhere. That just isn’t me.
  10. I don’t want a traditional relationship anyway. Like I was saying, it’s going to take a very specific kind of man to hold me. I want a feminist, educated mountain man who makes me laugh, treats me like a treasure and knows the worth of a strong woman. I definitely haven’t found him yet. I hope I do, don’t get me wrong. I just don’t want what most people are looking for, and I’ve trapped myself in the wrong situation too many times.
  11. Seeing subpar relationships makes me more determined to hold out for something great. I have no problem staying single for as long as it takes to find the right guy. If I never do, at least I’ll have built an amazing life for myself. I refuse to wait around for some man to complete me. It’ll never happen anyway. I complete myself. I see so many grossly co-dependent or just miserably unhappy relationships. People don’t want to make the effort to break out of their bad patterns and change their lives. It’s too bad, and I won’t live stuck in a miserable rut with someone I don’t like that much.
A former actress who has always loved the art of the written word, Amy is excited to be here sharing her stories! She just completed her first novel, and is also a contributor for Elite Daily, Dirty & Thirty, and Thought Catalog. Amy is the founder of What If Journey and can be found on Twitter @amyhorton18. You can also visit her website at