Here’s Why Terrible Guys Have The Most Appeal

Here’s Why Terrible Guys Have The Most Appeal ©iStock/annebaek

He’s a player who treats you badly, so why do you like him? You should be throwing a drink in his face and leaving him with his right hand, but instead, you’re thinking about inviting him home with you. What’s the deal? Well, here’s why losers have the most appeal:

  1. They know how to manipulate you. Losers know what information to give you (that they’re avid cat lovers) and what information to leave out (that they’re only interested in sleeping with you). They’re the kings of the dating game.
  2. They’re hot. The biggest a-holes are usually attractive. They’re able to rely on their looks, so they haven’t bothered to develop their personalities. As much as you claim you’re not shallow, it’s hard to resist a pretty face and rock hard abs.
  3. They make you feel like the crazy one. Losers have a special gift. They’re able to turn any situation around to make you look like the bad guy. That’s why you’ll be stuck thinking that he’s a catch and that you’re a lowlife that doesn’t deserve him.
  4. They’re skilled liars. If an a-hole seems like your dream man, that’s because he’s figured out what you want him to say and is saying it. It’s all an act, but you’ll believe every word of it.
  5. They’re confident. In fact, they border on idiotic. They act like they’re hot stuff, and you’ll agree. You’d rather be with someone with high self-esteem than with someone who wallows in his own misery.
  6. They always act casual. But here’s the thing: It’s not an act at all. They couldn’t care less about whether or not you text back, because they have other girls on the hook. If you don’t answer them, then they’ll be able to find someone else who will.
  7. They’re smooth talkers. They don’t deal with the nerves, so there’s no awkwardness during your dates. Instead of trying to think of icebreakers to keep the conversation going, you can relax and have a good time, because they know how to hold a conversation. They’re charmers, through and through.
  8. They look like they can change. When you find an loser, you’ll tell yourself that he has a few flaws, but he’s an overall good guy. You’ll think that as long as you can change a few things about him, he’ll be perfect. But he’ll never change.
  9. They know how to turn you on. Even if you’re looking for something real, it can’t hurt to have a man tell you how hot you look in your dress. Jerks know what compliments to give you and when. All they want is getting down, and they know how to get you into it.
  10. They make you feel superior. Out of all of the women in the world, they picked you. When you hear them talk crap about others, it’ll give you a twisted sense of joy to know that you’re on his good side. It’s like being picked to sit at the popular kids table back in high school.
Holly Riordan is a writer from Long Island, New York who has authored several science fiction and horror books. A graduate of Stony Brook University, she has spent nearly a decade writing for publications including Thought Catalog, Huffington Post, Teen Vogue, and more. You can find her on Instagram @hollyrio and Twitter @hollyyrio.