10 Texts To Send A Guy You’re Flirting With But Not Dating Yet

Your flirt game is strong. You’ve been texting this guy for a while now and each text session buzzes with sexy heat. Unfortunately, while things have been going well, you haven’t taken things to the next level. Want to start actually dating? Try these texts to shake things up and make him want you even more, all while avoiding major texting faux pas.

“I’ve been thinking about you.”

Your flirty texts aren’t written in a vacuum. He might be concerned that he’s just one of many guys who have your attention or that you just see him as a way to boost your own self-esteem. Let him know that he has a special spot in your thoughts. It’ll make him feel special. Even guys like to feel like they matter.

“You’re hilarious.”

While he likely understands that you find him sexy, he might worry that that’s all you think of him. Start complimenting things about him other than his looks. Did he just say something genuinely funny? Compliment his humor and he’ll love you for it. Get used to complimenting him on things that aren’t based in looks or animal attraction alone, like his bravery, compassion, or intellect.

“What’s your go-to song for when you want to get amped?”

Open up the conversation beyond flirting so you can take the relationship to the next level. Skip boring, generic questions, though! Talk about music, movies, books, social justice issues–anything that you both might feel passionate about. This little detour into deeper conversation will signal to him that you want him for more than just those sexy texts. Here’s one important key to this, though: Don’t stop the flirting! If you replace all flirty texts with deep questions, he’ll assume you just want to be friends.

“I’m sure you could keep me warm.”

Look for an opportunity to get his mind on what it would be like to be with you in person. Sure, it’s easier to do this with flirty texts (sexting, hello), but aim toward intimacy rather than sex. If it’s a chilly night, text him about how he could keep you warm.

Pictures of you on an adventure

 You have a life outside of your text relationship with this guy, so show him what it’s like. If you told him you’re off to go float down a river or ski a mountain, send him a picture of you having a blast. He’ll get to see how much fun you are and yearn to be a part of the adventures. Plus, it shows him that you have an emotionally healthy life that doesn’t just revolve around guys. And who doesn’t want that?

“Some things are better in person.”

Now that you’ve hinted at what it would be like to if he was with you in person, you can use this tactic even more by replacing your flirting with it. The next time you guys get particularly sexy, stop things in their tracks and let him know it would be better in person. If he’s into you, he’ll love receiving a text like this.

“Sorry, I was busy.”

While you may be excited to text him, especially if you’re looking to get more out of this relationship, it can look bad to always be available. Do yourself a favor and live your life as you normally would. If he texts you when you’re out with friends or at work, don’t jump to text him back immediately. When you finally have some time, send him “sorry, I was busy,” and then continue the conversation from where you left off. Guys love a girl who still has a life beyond the guy she’s talking to. And FYI: You don’t have to tell him why you were busy. That text should be enough.

“I like talking to you.” 

Tell him what your texting has meant to you. A simple, “I like talking to you,” will go a long way. Add this text during or at the end of a particularly great conversation. If he responds with similar appreciation, then you’re golden. Just don’t send this text if he’s started to pull back. If he’s cooling down on your text conversations, this will just sound desperate.

“Let’s do the one thing you’ve always wanted to do.”

This text will single-handedly make you seem charming and captivating while showing your hand that you want to do things in-person. In the lead-up to this text, talk about adventures that you’ve been on or things you’d like to try. Who knows–maybe you’ll both end up bungee-jumping in the near future!

“Let’s make this official.”

You’ll never get what you want if you don’t ask for it. You’ve been flirting with this guy for ages, dropping hints and letting him know that you want something more. Now’s the time to be clear, open, and concise. You got this, girl.

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