The Rebound Relationship: 13 Reasons It’s Worth It

We’ve all heard the suggestion that the perfect amount of time to get over your ex should be half the time you were together. But everyone’s different, and choosing an arbitrary length of time and just waiting it out won’t help you move on. While there’s something to be said for waiting awhile after a break up before getting back into the dating game, there are plenty of reasons a rebound relationship is just what you need to get over your ex.

  1. You need a reminder that great guys do exist. Maybe your breakup has left you wondering if all guys are just douche bags in disguise. Spending time with a nice, normal guy – even if you don’t want a relationship – will give you hope for the future.
  2. It provides a distraction from being depressed. You’re past the crying yourself to sleep, moping around in sweats, perpetually sad phase. Getting to know someone new will distract you from all the memories that just send you into yet another crying jag.
  3. It’ll prevent you from texting your ex one drunken night. Your friends may have forced you to delete his number, but they didn’t know you had it memorized. You need someone else to drunk text, or you’re doomed to send the dreaded “I miss you” text.
  4. You’ll have a reason to not let yourself go. You’ve probably overindulged in all the junk food, neglected your bikini region upkeep and forgotten you even have a gym membership for a few weeks. Better get on top of those things if you want rebound guy to stay interested.
  5. You aren’t ready for anything more serious. Just because you’re not ready for a serious relationship yet doesn’t mean you can’t have a little fun.
  6. It can make the transition from committed to single a little easier. It’s hard to go from having someone to do every little thing with, to having to do every little thing alone. At the very least, your rebound will be around to catch the occasional movie or have the occasional bit of sex.
  7. You probably need an ego stroke. There are guys out there other than your ex who think you’re great, and now’s as good a time as any to give them a chance.
  8. Sex with someone new is exciting. You don’t know their signature moves, and they don’t know yours. It’s nice to remember what it’s like to feel that build up of sexual tension and anticipation of what is going to happen next.
  9. Dates are fun. At least they are supposed to be. A date should be better than another Saturday night alone on the couch.
  10. You can still have your “me time”. You need to focus on yourself and figuring out what you want after a break up. You won’t have to worry if you’re spending enough time together, because there are no expectations.
  11. It could turn into more. You never know when you will click with someone. Keep your mind open.
  12. Putting yourself out there again is never a bad thing. If can be hard to get back out there after a long term relationship, and a rebound will show you it isn’t as hard as it seems.
  13. You’ll have a better idea what you are looking for. You know why your relationship ended, and dating can sometimes be like a process of elimination. Figuring out what you don’t want will eventually lead you to the one you do.
By day, Courtney is a digital marketing copywriter living in Toronto, Canada. By night, she's a freelance lifestyle writer who, in addition to, contributes regularly to, IN Magazine, and SheBlogs Canada. Want to chat about relationships, Stephen King or your favorite true crime podcast/documentary/book? She's on Twitter @courtooo.