It sucks, but the truth is, a lot of guys are only interested in getting laid. Sure, there are genuine guys who are looking for a real connection, but they seem few and far between. So how can you tell which dudes ones are into you and which are only looking to Netflix and chill? Here are a few warning signs to look out for:
- He gets annoyed when your invitation to come over and watch a movie is literally just that. When you said you wanted to watch last season of Orphan Black and eat pizza, you weren’t talking in code — you literally meant it. He tries to pretend he’s all for it, but it’s clear he’s disappointed. When he starts kissing your neck or rubbing his hand on your thigh and you tell him to knock it off, all of a sudden he’s too tired to hang and has to go home to get some sleep for work in the morning. What a loser.
- You only hear from him late at night. What is it with him only texting you when you’re getting ready for bed (or even when you’re already asleep)? Yup, you guessed it — you’re just a booty call to him. Unless you’re looking for a f*ck buddy or a friends with benefits situation, don’t fall for this crap. Put your phone on silent and ignore him.
- You’ve never met his friends and they don’t know who you are. If you’ve been seeing each other for a decent amount of time now and you haven’t met his friends (and he hasn’t so much as mentioned you to them), that’s a serious red flag. What does he have to hide? Some guys feel the less information you have about them, the easier it is for you to let him go. If he avoids introducing you to his best friends, ask him what’s up or just drop him and move on. If was seriously into you, he’d want to show you off.
- He never invites you to sleep over and/or makes excuses for why you can’t. There’s literally no excuse for a guy to kick you out or even so much as make you feel unwelcome after you’ve done the deed. If he’s always claiming he has something he has to do early in the morning or that his roommate’s not cool with people sleeping over or some other BS excuse, you can be sure you’re being used for sex.
- You’ve never been out on a real date. Nope, sorry — eating Chinese food on his couch before getting down to business doesn’t count as a date. A guy who’s interested in developing a real and lasting relationship with you will make some effort to do so by working to impress you and treating you to romantic evenings out. If this isn’t happening, you need to get out now.
- He doesn’t want to hear about your personal life. If you’re attempting to spill your guts to him about something that’s on your mind and he keeps playing his video game or scrolling his Facebook timeline on his phone without looking up, he most likely doesn’t care. If he’s not interested in you unless you’re in some state of undress, he’s not really interested at all.
- He’s always the one to initiate sex. Sure, maybe you like when a guy makes the first move, and that’s fine, but if he’s continuously doing it — as in, every time you hang out — that may be all he wants. It’s great that he finds you attractive and likes sleeping with you, but he should enjoy activities outside the bedroom too.
- He drops sexual innuendos/”jokes” to every single conversation. Maybe you love a little dirty talk, but when a guy is excessively talking dirty and you can’t even have a normal conversation without him adding something sexual into it, it gets to be a little too much. Sure, he’s “joking,” but is he really? You know where his mind is when he never stops.
- He only ever compliments you on your appearance. When was the last time the guy you’re seeing gave you a legitimate compliment? No, I don’t mean about your body — I mean a real compliment, such as being proud of you for accomplishing something or applauding you for how strong you are when you go through a rough time. If he only seems to notice your physical qualities rather than your personality traits, there’s a problem.
- Whenever he comes over, he heads straight for the bedroom. Nothing like getting straight to the point, right? This guy isn’t wasting any time! He doesn’t even ask you about your day. If he can’t even have a normal conversation with you or ask how your day was, why does he think he can just jump in your bed? Don’t let this guy get away with that behavior and don’t degrade yourself like that. Kick him to the curb!
