Things That Actually Make A Guy Marriage Material

We love to throw around the term “marriage material” as if we can magically conjure up our dream husband-to-be. Of course, life and love don’t exactly work that way, and chances are we’re all going to marry someone who’s unlike who we expected (if we want to get married, that is). Here are 9 things that actually make a guy marriage material:

  1. A sense of ambition. It’s super cool when a guy is ambitious. Ambition is different from having a so-called “good job” because while some of us are stuck on the idea that only being a doctor or a lawyer is a good profession, the rest of us can admit that non-traditional work is great, too. You can’t marry a guy who is lazy and has zero dreams. Well, you could, but it might not end all that well.
  2. A desire to be employed. Again, it’s not really about what job a guy has, but the fact that he’s working. Or if he’s unemployed because life sucks sometimes, then he’s interested in getting another job. We’re not asking for the world here, are we?
  3. Creativity. OK, so maybe he’s not going to be the next Picasso, but that doesn’t matter. Creative guys are more fun because they make life more interesting. There are all kinds of ways to be creative – maybe he’s awesome at cooking or building stuff. There are no rules.
  4. Awesome communication skills. We should never marry a guy we can’t talk to or who can’t (or won’t) talk to us. Marriage is full of ups and downs and all kinds of surprises so communication is kind of a big deal.
  5. Respect for your people. If he’s not into spending time with our mom or sister or best friend, then he’s not the real deal. Sometimes we have to hang out with people we might not absolutely love for the sake of our partners, and that’s okay. It’s all part of being coupled up.
  6. The ability to leave the house. Sounds crazy but it’s not really in the age of homebodies. Sure, cuddling up with Netflix is fun but we want a guy who can have fun hanging out around the city.  
  7. His own life. We have our life, and we want our future husband to as well. There’s nothing worse than a guy who has zero friends because it’s just not healthy to be someone’s entire world.
  8. Excitement about the future. We don’t want to marry someone who is terrified of what the future brings. We want to welcome the future with open arms and have someone standing next to us, smiling as big as we are.
  9. Confidence. If a guy isn’t confident, it’s going to seriously ruin our lives because we live our lives totally unashamed. We don’t want to marry someone who’s going to feel like a loser just because we’re succeeding.
Aya Tsintziras is a freelance lifestyle writer and editor from Toronto, Canada. In addition to writing about dating and relationships for Bolde, she also writes about movies, TV, and video games for ScreenRant and GameRant. She has a Political Science degree from the University of Toronto and a Masters of Journalism from Ryerson University. You can find her on Twitter @ayatsintziras and on Instagram @aya.tsintziras.