Things We Assume Every Man Wants, But They Don’t

Things We Assume Every Man Wants, But They Don’t ©iStock/Anchiy

Our gender doesn’t define us, and a man’s gender doesn’t define him. That’s why some men aren’t interested in the stereotypical things we’ve always assumed they all like. Sure, we’ve been told by women’s magazines and dating sites for years what every man wants, but it seems we got it wrong. If you assume guys are after the following things, you probably need a bit of a wake-up call.

  1. Casual sex. Not all men are players. Some of them would prefer to hop into bed with the same woman for a decade than to find someone new every night. After all, the latter requires a whole lot of work.
  2. Butt sex. Don’t assume that he wants to slip his junk into your second hole. Some men aren’t interested in butt sex. That’s why you need to talk to every guy you sleep with about his preferences instead of assuming that he wants the same things that all of your exes did.
  3. Threesomes. Some men have trouble pleasing one woman. Imagine how hard it would be for them to please two at the same time. Besides, some men are serious when it comes to monogamy. They genuinely want to be with one woman and one woman only.
  4. To dominate you. Some men want you to take control. They don’t want to be stuck on top during every sex session. They like seeing you straddle them, because it means they get a good view while doing the least amount of work possible.
  5. A woman who cooks. You can be girlfriend material, even if you don’t cook. Some men actually like to spend time in the kitchen, and will do the cooking for you. Other men don’t mind ordering takeout every other night, because they know your personality is more important than your cooking abilities.
  6. To be the breadwinner. Don’t assume that he wants to spend the week at work, making money for the two of you. He might want to have children, so he can stay home with them all day. Some men would prefer to do the cooking and cleaning than to bring home a paycheck.
  7. Silence. Don’t keep your conversations short and sweet, because you’re assuming your man doesn’t want to hear about your day. Some guys actually like to hear their girlfriends talk and talk, even if it’s about something mundane. They just want to hear your voice.
  8. Blow jobs. Not every man wants you to get down on your knees for him. Some of them would prefer to have sex, so that you can both get enjoyment out of the activity. Besides, it’s more intimate that way. So don’t get offended when he turns down your offer of oral.
  9. A bachelor’s lifestyle. Sure, some men love going to strip clubs and drinking with their buddies. However, there are other men who prefer married life. They’d rather sit inside with you and watch Netflix than dance at clubs that are too loud and overpriced.
  10. A fancy car. We’re not all interested in makeup, and not all men are interested in flashy cars. Some of them don’t care about materialistic items. They just want to be happy and healthy.
Holly Riordan is a writer from Long Island, New York who has authored several science fiction and horror books. A graduate of Stony Brook University, she has spent nearly a decade writing for publications including Thought Catalog, Huffington Post, Teen Vogue, and more. You can find her on Instagram @hollyrio and Twitter @hollyyrio.