As unbelievable as it may sound, I met my boyfriend on Tinder. When we matched, he seemed instantly different than other dudes and the longer we were together, the more I realized he really is. Here are 10 things he did differently that showed me he just might be “The One.”
- He started an actual conversation. The very first time he messaged me, he started asking me about myself: what I liked to do, where I liked to travel, what makes me tick. We ended up getting into a really interesting conversation the very night we matched. There were no awkward “hey” messages that fade into nothing, no unsolicited pics of his junk, and no cheesy pickup lines.
- He took me on a real date. After chatting for about a week, he told me he wanted to take me out on a date—he literally used the word “date.” There was no casual hookup or meeting up for drinks or coffee; It was just a plain old fashioned date. He took me to dinner at a nice restaurant, we had more great conversation, and he even paid the bill. After dinner, we stayed for a few more drinks and even more conversation. It was the perfect evening.
- He didn’t ask me to come in. After our first date, he kissed me but he didn’t ask me to come over to his place. Instead, he just got me a cab home. I was surprised and even thought at first that maybe he didn’t like me as much as I liked him. It turns out he just didn’t want to rush things. What a gentleman!
- He texted me immediately. He actually texted me as I was on my way home that night, and again the next day! We continued our texting conversation and kept finding more and more in common. I didn’t have to chase him down or wait ages for replies because he was always in contact (but not so much that it was creepy or desperate).
- He kept his promises. He called when he said he was going to call and when he couldn’t, he would send me a quick text letting me know something came up or he got busy with work. This really helped with building trust, especially since I’d dated guys that never seemed to get this concept. I learned really quickly that he was a man of his word and he took our growing relationship seriously.
- He wouldn’t sleep with me right away. He was actually the one who turned me down! He told me he didn’t want to rush things because he really liked me. He wanted to make sure we waited until we had a deep emotional and intellectual connection before we made a physical one. I knew for a fact that he’d slept with plenty of other girls, so this showed me that he somehow wanted to do things differently with me.
- He made his intentions clear. From the beginning, I knew he wanted to date me in order to have a relationship and that he wasn’t just interested in sex. There was no guesswork involved and it felt great. He clearly told me he wanted to take me on dates, that he really liked me, and that he was interested in having a relationship. He even said that his goal was to get married. I knew we had the same goals and were headed down the right path.
- He asked to meet my mom. At the end of our third date, my mom had arrived in town. He casually asked if he got to meet her so I invited him to go out to eat with us. He seemed really comfortable meeting her and he fit in with the rest of my family pretty quickly. They all really liked him, which I took as a good sign.
- He deleted his Tinder account after our first date. And he told me about it. He said he didn’t expect me to do the same but he didn’t feel comfortable talking to other women when he spent so much of his time talking to me. Obviously, I decided to delete Tinder too. At this point, I only had eyes for him.
- He cleaned up his contact list. He blocked and deleted all of his ex-girlfriends, friends with benefits, Tinder matches he hadn’t yet met, and one-night stands from his phone and social media. He said he didn’t want it interfering with our growing relationship. The fact that he did this pretty much sealed the deal for me; clearly he really wanted us to work out and he wasn’t willing to let anything get in the way of that.
