Things You Can Tell About His Love Making Style From How He Kisses

How a guy handles the basics of intimacy can tell you a lot about how he handles the bigger things. Here are some things you can deduce from a guy’s kissing style, and what you can expect from him in bed:

  1. He sticks to quick pecks, even in private. This is a guy who is shy about intimacy, or might not have a strong attraction to you. He’s kissing you the same way that he’s kissing his grandma, so it’s safe to expect it to fizzle rather than sizzle.
  2. His kisses match yours in passion, and they’re actually decent. This is a guy who has most likely spent time working on his kissing technique. If he’s spent time working on that, he’s probably going to be just as good in bed. He’ll likely be focused on your pleasure, and he’s genuinely attracted to you. He could also be a natural, and that’s not a bad thing either.
  3. He’s blissfully unaware that his breath stinks. He has hygiene issues. Do not even think about going down on him.
  4. His lips totally swallow yours. He doesn’t have any idea how to kiss, problem one. Problem two, he doesn’t seem to be aware of how sloppy it is. Problem three, he’s probably not noticing how grossed out you look after you wipe his drool from your face. Nine times out of 10, this will not be good in bed.
  5. He’s overly forceful with his kisses. Well, the good news is that sleeping with this guy will be passionate, to say the least. He’s so into it, he’s getting carried away! The problem is that he might be so lost in lust that he forgets about your pleasure… or that he won’t accept no for an answer.
  6. You get the feeling like kissing is just a means to an end with him. Well, this tells you that he’s excited. It also suggests that he’s pretty selfish in bed. A guy who kisses forcefully and continues to grope you is someone who will very likely ride the hell out of you. He can provide rough intimacy, but the problem is that he probably isn’t actually into you as anything other than a quick hookup. He also won’t actually respect boundaries — or you.
  7. He takes his time teasing you. This is a sign that he’s really into you, and that he’s focused on having you enjoy it. He’s willing to listen to boundaries, and will be very quick to pick up on body cues. He’s enjoying himself, and when it comes to getting down, he’ll make a point of it to make you want more, too.
  8. He pulls back. If you can’t help but notice a large amount of space between you and your boy’s body during a kiss, this is a bad sign. Unless he’s trying to be cute, you’re probably not going to have sleep with him. He’s most likely not interested.
  9. You have to take the lead when you kiss. This can mean one of two things — it can mean he’s not very interested or passionate, or it can mean that he’s very shy. You might want to take it slow with this guy to find out what he’s all about.
  10. He licks and bites rather than kisses. Grr! This is one primal guy. If you are a fan of guys who bring out the animal side of them to the bedroom, then you’ll definitely want to check him out.
Ossiana Tepfenhart is a New Jersey based writer and editor with bylines in Mashed, Newsbreak, Good Men Project, YourTango, and many more. She’s also the author of a safe travel guide for LGBTQIA+ people available on Amazon.

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