10 Things You Can Do To Have An Amazing Date With Yourself

Ditch the idea that a plus-one is a necessary prerequisite for having a good time. If you can’t live life to the fullest solo, what level of fun do you expect to contribute to a partnership anyway? It’s time to do something for yourself, by yourself. Here are 10 ways to have a good time alone when you stop focusing on a guy to provide happiness in your life for you.

  1. Take yourself out on a lunch date. Unlimited salad and breadsticks for one? Hell yes! There’s no rule that dining in requires a minimum of two occupants per table. Even if there was, then grab a seat at the bar! Lunch hour at restaurants can be a super chill time to just relax and enjoy a quiet meal. You could even bring work or reading with you to a coffee shop or small cafe. If you’re feeling daring, maybe even sneak a little early afternoon buzz by pairing a margarita with your chips & salsa over tacos at a Mexican restaurant. It’s 5 o’clock somewhere, right?
  2. Engage in some retail therapy. We all don’t have money to blow, but dating yourself doesn’t have to be expensive. Window shopping is totally free and still a girl’s dream day out. If you go alone, you can try on the same top as many times as you want without unsolicited grumbling from the peanut gallery. You may even snag a good coupon for a future trip. If you do find something you like, it’s OK to splurge every now and again. You’ve earned it.
  3. Have a spa day. Pampering is always a great way to indulge yourself. You work hard and deserve to feel like a Queen. Getting a mani-pedi and blowout will only complement the independent woman glow you are already rocking by prioritizing you. You don’t need a guy when you can just pay someone to help you relax.
  4. Attend a concert or show. If there’s a band you’ve really been wanting to hear, then go! Don’t limit yourself from an adventure just waiting around for someone to tag along with you. You’ll already be surrounded by plenty of other people there who have the same interest as you. The fun is an automatic given and all you need to do is take yourself to it.
  5. Sign up for a group class. There are so many options for outings on places like Meetup.com, Facebook events, and Groupon “Things To Do.” You could try a cooking class, go to a trivia or open-mic night, join a paint & sip session, or even get inspired at a vision board party. There are so many ways to explore your personal interests when you’re not held back by compromising with someone else. How many times have you ended up somewhere you had to completely suffer through because it was what he wanted to do? Don’t waste any more of your free hours. Your time can be invested back into you.
  6. Treat yo’ self. And by that, I mean a literal treat. Hide the scale and satisfy your sweet tooth! Go out for ice cream or a dessert. Find a gourmet cupcake shop or get creative by combining flavors of Italian ice or yogurt at a frozen creation restaurant. We all need an occasional sugar fix in our lives.
  7. Grab your dancing shoes. Yes, it’s OK to go to a dance spot alone even if you can’t dance. Places like salsa clubs always have “regulars” who wouldn’t mind guiding a pretty woman through the steps. It’s great exercise and a way to meet new people. You may even learn some new moves.
  8. Spend time in nature. Being outdoors can be a mood-lifter and has many health benefits. Go for a walk. Ride your bike along a walking trail or find a good hiking route. Find a public garden to do some self-guided yoga or meditation. Fresh air and natural aesthetics can clear your mind and promote mindful awareness. Get natural sun-kissed skin by soaking in the rays and getting out of the stuffy indoors.
  9. Visit a clairvoyant. Seriously, don’t knock it until you’ve tried it, but definitely do your research and find a reputable psychic medium before spending your money. It could really provide some external insight you’re your life. There are so many stories about people getting accurate readings about their future or hearing news about late loved ones. It’s an interesting experience, for sure, at the very least.
  10. Go to a singles mixer/speed-dating event. Just because you’re in a relationship with yourself doesn’t mean you need to be exclusive. You can still meet guys and keep your conversation-with-the opposite-sex skills sharp for when you’re serious about settling down in the future. It’s something to do and practice for later. It might also be a way to stay reminded why you’re better off out of the dating world and focusing on you (depending on the type of guys you encounter!).


I’m Cara, not to be confused with Carrie, although you could say I’m a Millennial Bradshaw of sorts. Pop culture connoisseur. Lover of all things creative and passionate about health and personal well-being. Follow me on IG @cara_vale_writer