There’s nothing I dislike more than having to explain myself to someone, especially a guy! I don’t need to convince someone of my worth or show them with my own eyes and neither do you. That’s why it’s time to stop justifying these things to them.
- Not wanting to have kids I don’t see myself becoming a mom. I love kids, don’t get me wrong, but I have my reservations. I don’t need a guy’s approval; he’s either OK with it or he’s not. I also don’t need a guy who thinks he’ll change my mind. Having said that, I’m pro-choice. No guy has the right to tell me what to do with my own body. I don’t belong to anyone but myself. It’s my personal choice to decide whether I want to bring a child to this world or not.
- My religious beliefs I’m not a religious person. When I was younger, it was really hard for me to share that with guys I liked because I was afraid of their judgment. I was worried that it would be the reason they won’t commit to me. As I got older, I realized that my standpoint on religion wasn’t just an opinion, it was a lifestyle, and I’m not willing to let go of it for a guy or anyone/anything else.
- Having baggage I don’t need to make sense of my baggage to a guy. The truth is, he either gets that I have complicated past experiences or he doesn’t. I’m scared of commitment. I have daddy issues, a fear of abandonment, and worry that I’m often misunderstood. I don’t need to tell a guy my life story so that he gets why I’m so messed up in some areas. I don’t want anyone who sees my broken pieces as weakness, I want a guy who sees my baggage beautiful.
- What I do for a living I dated a guy who criticized my job. He thought it was stressful and he was right—my mental health was non-existent. However, he didn’t see why I was doing it. He didn’t see the joy and pride I felt every day. A guy who disagrees with me on my career choice is a guy who fails to understand my vision. I don’t want a guy who underestimates my job or isn’t supportive of it. I want a guy who sees my passion as a turn-on.
- My family dynamic I have a complicated family, that’s no secret. There’s no way I can be with someone who doesn’t accept that because my family is a part of who I am. I need to be with a guy who doesn’t think there’s something wrong with me because I don’t stay in touch with everyone.
- My past relationships I don’t need to explain to a guy what I saw in an ex of mine. I don’t need to justify my choices when it comes to my love life and who I get in bed with. I’m done falling in the trap of having my heart make sense to a guy. I want a guy who understands why I fell in love without asking why because he knows what makes my heart melts.
- My daily struggles as a woman A guy can never relate to a woman’s experiences unless he was in her shoes. There are some guys who don’t realize the misogynist comments, behaviors, and rules that women experience every day. I don’t want to be around a guy who thinks I’m being emotional and dramatic because I’m on my period, or that I’m being sensitive about not being taken seriously at work just because I’m a girl.
- Not wanting to have sex Sex is a two-way street, and I don’t want a guy who doesn’t meet me halfway. I’m allowed to say no without giving a reason. I’m allowed to change my mind. I don’t want a guy who gets offended when I turn him down, and I don’t want a guy who pressures me to get intimate with him when I’m not ready.
- What I’m up to I don’t need to tell a guy what my everyday life looks like. There’s nothing I hate more than talking to a guy who makes me feel like I’m under investigation asking me questions like “what are you up to?” at 2 a.m. or “who did you go with?” referring to the last trip I had out of town. If a guy doesn’t trust me to have a life of my own, he shouldn’t be in it in the first place.
- Who I’m friends with A guy I knew made a disrespectful comment about some friends we hung out with one time which made me realize how incompatible we were. I don’t want a guy who thinks he knows what’s best for me more than I do. Honestly, a boyfriend who doesn’t get along with my friends is a straight-up headache.
