10 Things A Guy Does When He Wants You To Be His GF

Whether he’s a been a friend forever or a fling that’s turning into something more, there are always ways to tell if a guy wants more—and they might not be what you’d expect. Here’s how you know for sure that he wants to take things to the next level.

  1. He suddenly likes things he was never interested in previously. If he suddenly wants to go to the mall with you and your friends or see a chick-flick, he probably sees you as girlfriend material. Guys don’t just suddenly choose Emma Stone over Die Hard.
  2. He asks your friends about you. I don’t care if he’s 15 or 25—he will (not so slyly) try to mine your friends for info about you. First, he’ll just ask if you’re going to that one party (not like he cares or anything) and maybe if you’re bringing a date (but only because he wants to know if he should bring one too). If he’s asking others for the scoop, he’s more than a little interested.
  3. He gets more protective. Guy friends might ward off a drunk dude who’s bothering you at a party, but this guy will go the extra mile. He’ll walk you to your car and ask for a “home safe” text. He might even discourage you from doing fun things like jumping off the pier at night. It seems weird, sure, but he’s just trying to keep you safe. Just make sure you know the difference between being protective and being possessive.
  4. He suddenly seems super judgmental. Suddenly every other guy strutting down the boardwalk becomes a hairy douche bag. “Trust me, I know,” he says wide-eyed. His ability to locate the flaws of a potential threat is astonishing. While the jealousy can be hard to handle, it can help to know he’s just trying to thin the competition.
  5. He changes his body language. Look down. Is his body facing yours in a crowd of people? Does his hand brush yours “accidentally” way more than it used to? A guy who thinks you’re a friend will give you a hug at the end of the night. A guy who wants to hook up will linger a little too long. But a guy who wants gain boyfriend status will use the little ways to show you what he wants. 
  6. He pulls away. Think about it. If he wants to impress you, he’s going to be more careful. If you’re just friends, you can take it or leave it, but when he sees you as a serious possibility, he doesn’t want to ruin it by being too loud or awkward. While it may seem like he’s suddenly distant, he’s probably just self-conscious. He wants to get it right. 
  7. He confides in you. If he tells you about his parents’ divorce or his antidepressants, he probably thinks of you as more than just a friend. He’s trying to tell you he trusts you. You definitely shouldn’t feel obligated to carry his (or anyone’s) baggage, but this could also be a sign that he wants you to confide in him. Guy friends might talk about how crappy life can be, but this guy will tell you things he doesn’t tell just anyone. Girls that listen when things get serious are totally girlfriend material. If he bares his soul to you, chances are he’s not planning on leaving anytime soon.  
  8. He dresses up more. If he goes from crocs and sweats to a button up and some cologne, you know somethings up. Girls aren’t the only ones to linger in front of the mirror. This guy will use everything he has to make you notice him.  
  9. He finds every reason to text you. “Happy Flag Day!” Nobody knew how many holidays there were until he decided that you’re girlfriend material. Also, he takes it upon himself to let you know of any traffic headaches on your work commute. He knows Google Maps could probably take care of that, but he “just wanted to make sure.”  And while he’s at it, “What are your plans for the weekend?”
  10. He wants his friends to like you. You never really cared about his friend from college that drinks too much and drives a moped, but suddenly he’s everywhere. He doesn’t really care about you either, but the potential boyfriend keeps trying to get everyone to “hang out.” It seems like he’s forcing it, but approval from his friends gives him a reason to not give up.
I'm a soon-to-be graduate of the English Lit and Writing Program at the University of Northwestern - St. Paul. I have a soon-to-be husband who I love very much as well as an affinity for soft blankets, mashed potatoes, and powerlifting.