10 Things That Make A Guy Great At Intimacy, Because It’s Not All About Size

Having a reliable source of consistently great intimacy is the dream. Whether it’s your boyfriend or a guy you have a no-strings-attached arrangement with when you find a guy who knows what he’s doing in the sack it’s like hitting the jackpot. We all know looks have nothing to do with prowess, and the size of a guy’s package doesn’t have to be a deal breaker either. It’s all about how he uses what he’s got, and how motivated he is to make sure you have the time of your life. Every. Single. Time.

  1. He’s spontaneous. Sometimes the mood just strikes and you have to take those opportunities and make the most of them. He isn’t afraid to do something unexpected or try new things, and his enthusiasm will never fail to get you in the mood too.
  2. He’s confident. Not to be confused with a big ego, a confident guy knows he has skills and he can back up his claims. He’d never promise you something and fail to deliver because he knows what he’s capable of and he knows you’ll love every second of it.
  3. He listens to you. While finding a guy who knows exactly what you want without you ever having to say a word might be the ultimate fantasy, chances are you’re going to have to speak up once in a while. If he listens and applies what you told him without his ego getting in the way, you’re in good hands.
  4. He dances like Channing Tatum in Magic Mike. He knows exactly what turns a woman on and he’s extremely in tune with the effect the way he moves his body has. Guaranteed if he can dance, you won’t be getting the old jackhammer move from him.
  5. He always makes you feel gorgeous. He doesn’t hide the fact that he thinks you’re hot as hell and he totally wants you. Every woman wants to feel attractive, and if he can make you feel that way with just a look, imagine what he’ll be able to do once he gets you naked.
  6. He’s not a quitter. Even when the going is tough, “I give up” isn’t in his vocabulary. You know even when it seems like you aren’t going to cross the finish line, he’ll do whatever it takes to make sure you do anyway.
  7. He doesn’t rush anything. He knows for women, good intimacy is all about the build-up, and he’s definitely not going to take that away from you. Foreplay is half the fun and there’s no way he’s going to skip it without good reason.
  8. He doesn’t judge. If he’s the type who’s open-minded and accepting of people’s quirks in general, then he’ll probably be the same way in bed. Not only will he want to hear about your deepest, darkest fetish, he might actually be into it too.
  9. He’s a good communicator. Not only does he listen to what you want but he’s also super open about what he wants. He knows good intimacy requires being in tune with each other and paying attention not only to verbal cues, but to non-verbal once as well, and he’s nothing if not a master at interpreting your body language.
  10. He’s a fantastic kisser. Kissing is like an audition for intimacy. If it’s awful, you’re probably not going to want to go much further. But if just a kiss leaves you weak in the knees, chances are pretty good that you won’t be disappointed in other areas.
By day, Courtney is a digital marketing copywriter living in Toronto, Canada. By night, she's a freelance lifestyle writer who, in addition to Bolde.com, contributes regularly to AmongMen.ca, IN Magazine, and SheBlogs Canada. Want to chat about relationships, Stephen King or your favorite true crime podcast/documentary/book? She's on Twitter @courtooo.