20 Things People With Basic Manners Do And Don’t Do

20 Things People With Basic Manners Do And Don’t Do

Navigating the world of good manners can sometimes feel like a tightrope walk, but really, it’s all about being considerate and aware. Here are some things people with manners consistently do (and don’t do) to make their interactions smoother and more pleasant for everyone involved.

1. They do really listen when people are talking.

Polite people are champions of active listening. They’re not just waiting for their turn to speak; they’re genuinely engaged in what the other person is saying. This means maintaining eye contact, nodding, and giving verbal cues to show they’re tuned in. It’s about showing respect for the person speaking and valuing their thoughts and opinions.

2. They don’t interrupt or talk over other people.

In contrast, one hallmark of impoliteness is interrupting or talking over someone. People with manners wait for their turn in a conversation. They understand that cutting someone off not only disrupts the flow of conversation but can also make the other person feel undervalued and unheard.

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4. They do respect people’s personal space.

Understanding and respecting personal space is crucial. People with manners are mindful of how close they stand or sit next to someone, ensuring they’re not invading anyone’s personal bubble. This respect for personal boundaries extends to physical contact; they always make sure it’s welcome before engaging in handshakes, hugs, or other forms of touch.

5. They don’t sit on their phones nonstop.

In today’s digital world, one of the biggest faux pas is misusing your phone. Polite people do not scroll through their phones during conversations or meals. They understand that this can come across as disinterest or rudeness. Their phones are put away during social interactions to show that they value the people they’re with.

6. They do show gratitude.

Saying “please” and “thank you” might seem basic, but these small words hold immense power in politeness. They express gratitude and acknowledge the efforts of others, whether it’s a waiter at a restaurant, a colleague who helped with a project, or a friend lending a listening ear.

7. They don’t Engage in Gossip.

People with manners steer clear of gossip. They understand that spreading rumors or speaking ill of others not only harms relationships but also reflects poorly on their character. They choose to either change the subject or exit the conversation if it turns to gossip.

8. They do make sure they turn up on time.

Time is valuable, and polite people respect that. They make an effort to be on time, understanding that being late can inconvenience others and send a message that their time is less important. If they are running late, they make sure to inform those waiting as soon as possible.

9. They don’t Ignore Invitations or Requests.

Ignoring invitations or requests is seen as impolite. Whether it’s an RSVP to a wedding or a response to a dinner invite, people with manners acknowledge these communications. If they can’t attend or fulfill a request, they make sure to respond promptly and courteously.

10. They do offer help.

Polite people are often the first to offer assistance, whether it’s holding a door open for someone or offering help to a colleague swamped with work. They do it not for recognition, but because they genuinely care about the wellbeing of those around them.

11. They don’t Forget to Apologize When Necessary.

Apologizing when they’ve made a mistake is second nature to people with manners. They understand the importance of acknowledging their errors and making amends. This not only shows humility but also helps maintain and strengthen relationships.

12. They do Acknowledge Everyone in a Group.

People with manners make a point to acknowledge everyone in a group, not just those they know well or are interested in talking to. This could be as simple as a smile, a nod, or a brief greeting. It’s about making everyone feel seen and included, reinforcing a sense of respect and consideration for all present.

13. They don’t Dominate the Conversation.

While sharing and participating in conversations is great, dominating them is not. People with manners are conscious of how much they’re speaking and make sure to give others a chance to voice their thoughts and opinions. They avoid monopolizing discussions and show genuine interest in what others have to say.

14. They do respect differences of opinion.

In a world full of diverse perspectives, polite people understand the importance of respecting opinions that differ from their own. They can engage in discussions without becoming argumentative or dismissive. It’s about valuing healthy, constructive dialogue over the need to be right.

15. They don’t Make Assumptions About people.

Making assumptions about people based on their appearance, background, or beliefs is a no-go for people with manners. They approach interactions with an open mind and refrain from jumping to conclusions. This approach fosters more genuine and respectful connections.

16. They do use inclusive language.

Using inclusive language is a key aspect of being polite. It’s about being mindful of terms that encompass all individuals, avoiding language that might inadvertently exclude or offend. This consideration shows a high level of awareness and respect for the diversity of the people they interact with.

17. They don’t overstep Boundaries in Conversation.

Polite people understand that certain topics are sensitive and might not be appropriate for all conversations. They avoid prying into personal matters or bringing up potentially uncomfortable subjects unless they’re sure these topics are welcome. This respect for boundaries is central to maintaining comfortable and respectful interactions.

18. They do practice good table manners.

This extends beyond just chewing with your mouth closed. Polite people engage in pleasant table talk, offer dishes to others first, and show appreciation for the meal. It’s about creating a pleasant dining experience for everyone at the table.

19. They don’t leave people out of conversations.

Intentionally leaving someone out of a conversation can be deeply hurtful. People with manners make an effort to include everyone, especially those who might be shy or reticent. It’s about making sure no one feels ignored or isolated.

20. They do offer sincere compliments.

When they give compliments, people with manners mean them. They avoid flattery for the sake of it and instead offer genuine, heartfelt compliments. This sincerity not only makes the compliment more meaningful but also builds trust and positivity in their relationships.

21. They don’t disregard people’s requests or preferences.

If someone has expressed a personal preference or request, such as not to be photographed or for certain topics to be avoided in conversation, polite people honor these wishes. It’s about respecting individual preferences and showing that they value and care for others’ comfort and choices.

Piper Ryan is a NYC-based writer and matchmaker who works to bring millennials who are sick of dating apps and the bar scene together in an organic and efficient way. To date, she's paired up more than 120 couples, many of whom have gone on to get married. Her work has been highlighted in The New York Times, Time Out New York, The Cut, and many more.

In addition to runnnig her own business, Piper is passionate about charity work, advocating for vulnerable women and children in her local area and across the country. She is currently working on her first book, a non-fiction collection of stories focusing on female empowerment.
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