Things People Who Don’t Put Up With Anyone’s BS Have In Common

Things People Who Don’t Put Up With Anyone’s BS Have In Common

We’ve all met that one person who always seems to tell it like it is. They don’t sugarcoat, they’re not afraid to speak their mind, and they certainly don’t have time for people who don’t bring their A-game. There’s something incredibly refreshing about those who refuse to tiptoe around BS, so if you want to be more like them, hone in on developing (or strengthening) these traits.

1. They respect themselves.

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They know their worth and won’t let anyone walk all over them. They set boundaries and maintain those standards, no matter who’s trying to push them. Self-respect isn’t just a feeling for them; it’s reflected in how they carry themselves and the choices they make. They won’t settle for less than they deserve.

2. They see through excuses and justifications.

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People who don’t tolerate BS have a finely tuned BS detector. They can spot manipulation, lies, and half-truths a mile away. It’s like they have a sixth sense for dishonesty. They refuse to be fooled or waste their time with people who can’t be upfront. They’d much rather hear some hard truths than be told pretty lies.

3. They’re direct and honest in their communication.

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There’s no beating around the bush for these people. They call things as they see them and expect the same from everyone else — they won’t tolerate mind games or passive-aggressive nonsense from grown adults. They value honesty and clarity, which makes misunderstandings and miscommunications far less likely.

4. They have no time for drama.

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They don’t get sucked into petty squabbles or gossip. If you’re bringing the drama, they’re not interested in participating. Their energy is precious, and they consciously choose where to invest it. Petty conflicts simply don’t make the cut.

5. They’re not afraid of confrontation when necessary.

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While they don’t go looking for fights, they won’t back down from addressing issues head-on. They’ll stand up for what’s right, even if it’s uncomfortable. They understand avoiding conflict sometimes just lets problems fester. It takes courage to face difficult conversations, but they know that’s the only way issues can ever truly be resolved.

6. Their circle is small but loyal.

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They’d rather have a few genuine, trustworthy friends than a bunch of flaky or toxic people in their lives. Quality over quantity wins every time. They invest in meaningful connections and know true friends have their backs and support their no-BS attitude.

7. “No” is a complete sentence for them.

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People who don’t put up with anyone’s BS aren’t afraid to say no and don’t feel guilty setting boundaries. They know they can’t please everyone and prioritize their own well-being. Saying “no” allows them to say “yes” to the things that truly matter and align with their values.

8. They don’t sweat the small stuff.

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Minor annoyances don’t get under their skin. They focus their energy on things that truly matter, refusing to get sidetracked by trivial matters. This isn’t about ignoring problems, it’s about perspective and picking battles wisely. They won’t let petty things derail their day or disrupt their inner peace.

9. They protect their peace.

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They understand that maintaining their mental and emotional well-being is non-negotiable. They actively remove toxic people or situations from their lives. Peace of mind is a priority, and they aren’t afraid to cut ties with anyone who consistently compromises it. Drama might be entertaining for other people, but they have better things to do.

10. They don’t just talk the talk, they walk the walk.

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People who don’t put up with anyone’s BS live by their values. Hypocrisy is not their style, and they hold themselves to the same standards they expect from everyone else. Their actions align with their words, which builds trust and respect. They lead by example and it’s incredibly refreshing.

11. They’re not interested in people-pleasing.

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They want to be liked, sure, but not at the expense of their own authenticity. Trying to make everyone happy is a surefire way to lose yourself. They embrace rather be respected for who they truly are, knowing that won’t resonate with everyone, and they’re okay with that.

12. They’re emotionally mature.

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They don’t throw tantrums or resort to childish tactics to get their way. They manage their emotions and communicate in a respectful, assertive manner. They understand that strong emotions can cloud judgment. So, they strive to handle situations thoughtfully, even when provoked.

13. They have a high tolerance for discomfort.

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Sometimes, calling out BS or standing your ground is uncomfortable. They understand it’s often temporary and worth it to maintain their integrity. They’re willing to endure short-term discomfort for long-term self-respect and peace of mind. It’s a trade-off they’ve learned pays dividends.

14. They recognize that time is precious.

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They value their time. They’re not willing to waste it on people who bring negativity, play games, or lack respect. Life is too short to waste on those who don’t uplift, support, or offer genuine connection. They’d rather invest their time wisely.

15. They’re action-oriented.

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Instead of complaining, they focus on solutions. They fix what they can, walk away from what they can’t, and have the wisdom to tell the difference. They don’t dwell on negativity or tolerate situations that can’t be changed. They’re always looking for a way forward or a way out.

16. They know it’s (usually) not personal.

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People’s bad behavior often stems from their own insecurities. Those who don’t tolerate BS understand this and refuse to let someone else’s issues become their own. They have empathy, but they also have thick skin. They won’t let someone else’s baggage weigh them down.

Piper Ryan is a NYC-based writer and matchmaker who works to bring millennials who are sick of dating apps and the bar scene together in an organic and efficient way. To date, she's paired up more than 120 couples, many of whom have gone on to get married. Her work has been highlighted in The New York Times, Time Out New York, The Cut, and many more.

In addition to runnnig her own business, Piper is passionate about charity work, advocating for vulnerable women and children in her local area and across the country. She is currently working on her first book, a non-fiction collection of stories focusing on female empowerment.