“What Are You Waiting For?” & Other Things Virgins Are Tired Of Hearing

For some reason, people really like to say stupid things to virgins. When they find out that someone they know hasn’t had sex, they like to say things that they think will “help” them (as if they need any help), but it’s really doing more harm than good. Are you being offensive and not knowing it? Here are 10 things virgins are tired of hearing. If you’ve ever said any of them, please never do it again.

  1. “What are you waiting for?” There are many reasons why someone maybe a virgin so that means they might not always be waiting. Sometimes the opportunity has just never come up, and that can be embarrassing to admit, so just don’t ask.
  2. “You’ll find someone.” Thanks? Chances are this statement is true, but it usually comes across as pity, which is rude and ridiculous. Being a virgin isn’t that big of a deal, so you can save it with this one.
  3. “That’s really cute.” Okay, you don’t have to treat someone like they’re a child all of a sudden just because you found out they haven’t had sex. This is just condescending, even if you mean it as a compliment.
  4. “Good for you!” This is a really negative thing to say to someone and shames basically everyone else who has had sex. Being a virgin doesn’t make you good, just like not being one doesn’t make you bad, so stop.
  5. “You should try to lose it tonight.”  So now you’re going to try and plan out someone’s sex life? Stick to minding your own and ease up on the peer pressure. If you were going to be in some hurry to sleep with whoever you could get, you’d have done it a long time ago.
  6. “Are you really religious?” The answer could be yes, but why do you need someone to validate their decision about their own body to you? If you’re actually close with the person you’re asking this, then that will probably come up anyway, so don’t demand the answer.
  7. “Sorry, I forgot that you probably don’t get it.” Being a virgin doesn’t mean being totally ignorant when it comes to sex ,so don’t treat virgins that way. When talking about sex, just go with it like you would with anyone else. If they’re truly confused, then just let them come to you with questions.
  8. “You’re lucky. I wish I waited.” Way to needlessly scare someone. Thanks to society, there’s already some anxiety over losing your virginity and making a mistake, but you saying this just reinforces that and is just needlessly being negative.
  9. “Don’t you want to know what you’re doing before your wedding night?” Well, way to hint that they’re going to be terrible in bed for no reason. Everyone has their own journey, and if yours includes having sex before getting married to be experienced, then that’s fine… just like it’s fine if someone wants to wait until marriage, then figure things out.
  10. “You must be a prude.” No, virgins are just like other people, and that means they’re all different. Some might be really open and some might be more private, so don’t base their personality on that. Also, the word “prude” is just rude.
Nicole Weaver is a staff writer for YourTango and regularly contributes to Hollywood, The Bolde, and Proud2BMe. She is a lover of all things entertainment meaning she spends most of her nights in New York binge watching television shows. Follow her on Twitter at @nikkibernice.