A Guy Shares 10 Things Women Do To Attract Men That End Up Scaring Them Away Instead

Ladies, when it comes to how you think men operate, you probably have a whole lot of misconceptions that need clearing up. For instance, there are plenty of things that women do with the hope of drawing the attention of guys that most guys don’t actually find attractive. I know that it can be tough to hear, but it’s always best to know the truth. That’s why I’d like to share with you a few things that you may think help but are more likely to scare a guy away.

  1. Texting too much I know you ladies always like to text a guy when you’re interested and that’s fine, but there’s such a thing as sending too many messages. If the texting is non-stop, he’ll eventually get annoyed and lose interest. You also don’t want to get too cute with the way you text. It’s fun to be silly and playful via text sometimes, but doing it too often can be a turn-off for guys.
  2. Using baby talk We’re all a little tempted to use baby talk when we’re smitten with someone. In small doses, it can be cute and fun, but try to keep it to a minimum. It’s not the kind of voice most guys want to hear all the time or in front of people. Just keep that in mind even if you’re smitten and it’s hard to resist.
  3. Spending all of your time together Obviously, early in a relationship when you’re in the honeymoon phase, your instinct is to spend all of your time with the other person. However, that’s one way to scare a guy off. It makes some guys think that things are getting too serious too fast. Even during a whirlwind romance, both people should maintain their own lives and not spend every second together.
  4. Trashing other women In fairness, it’s sometimes fun and entertaining to hear you talk crap about other women, but at a certain point, it just comes off as petty and immature. If a guy is on a date with you, it means he’s choosing to spend time with you over other people. You don’t have to trash other women to convince him to be with you.
  5. Trashing your ex On the one hand, it’s good to know that your ex-boyfriend isn’t a threat to come back into your life if you hate him so much. Still, most guys don’t want to hear you talk about your ex at all. It just makes it seem as if you have unresolved feelings. It also seems like you’re comparing us to your ex, which guys hate. If you talk about your ex a lot, even in a negative way, a guy is more likely to get scared and jump ship.
  6. Fishing for compliments Okay, we all like receiving compliments, and sometimes it can be cute when you fish. However, it’s not something you want to turn into a habit. It’s annoying and comes off a little desperate. Also, doesn’t the compliment mean less if you have to fish for it? When women do that, they come off as needy, which is a good way to scare guys off.
  7. Talking about kids Admittedly, if you want to have kids one day, it’s good to be honest and let a guy know your bottom line. But talking about kids too much or too soon can scare him off in a hurry. That might be your end game, but no guy is ready to talk about that with someone they don’t know that well. If you bring up the topic too early or too often, it’s almost like actively scaring guys away.
  8. Drinking too much This is tough because most of us are accustomed to dating with cocktails. Each person having a drink or two can help them to loosen up and avoid some of the awkwardness of a first or second date. But if you overdo it and drink too much, you’ll turn him offimmediately. It will make you seem a little immature as if you’re a child that we have to take care of. Most guys aren’t going to stick around and keep dating someone like that.
  9. Dressing a little too nice Unfortunately, this is another area where there’s a fine line. Of course, you want to look your best and make a good impression during the early stages of dating, but you don’t want to go crazy and dress like you’re going to the prom or the Oscars. Doing so can be intimidating and offputting. It might also make him think that you’re trying to make things too serious too soon.
  10. Sleeping with him right away Okay, no guy is going to turn this down if you want to sleep with him on the first date. But it could make some of them think that you’re only looking for something casual. If that’s what you want, then great. But if you’re looking for something more serious, it’s easier for a guy to walk away if you sleep with him right away.
Bryan Zarpentine graduated from Syracuse University and lives in upstate New York, where he writes largely about the world of sports. His work has appeared on Franchise Sports and WSN, among others. You can find him on Twitter @BZarp.