10 Things You Won’t Need To Ask For In The Right Relationship

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It goes without saying that every relationship requires some amount of compromise. You’re two different people, so you can’t always get what you want — and neither can he. With the right guy, this won’t be a problem. After all, your happiness is important to him, just like his is to you. While sometimes you’ll need to pick your battles and let things slide, here are some things you just shouldn’t have to ask him for in the right relationship:

  1. Interest in your goals. It doesn’t matter if you’re actively living the life of your dreams or just making vision boards about it — what interests you and feeds your soul should matter to a guy who’s serious about you and your relationship.
  2. Alone time. Healthy relationships are made up of healthy people, and healthy people usually have lives outside of their relationships. You shouldn’t have to force your clingy dude to leave you alone for an evening if you need time to unwind.
  3. Apologies when he’s wrong. No one’s perfect, so it’s possible that he might accidentally hurt your feelings sometimes. The right guy, however, will recognize when he should apologize as opposed to blaming you or being defensive about the whole thing.
  4. Companionship. Every relationship looks different, but the right guy is going to be around and be present when you’re together. He cares about more than just sex and doesn’t ignore you when his friends are around.
  5. Complete transparency. Being transparent means that you’ve got nothing to hide. The right guy won’t be hiding stuff from you, and he also won’t be pretending like he is to wield power.
  6. Respect. At the end of the day, the right guy will respect you, even when you show him all your vulnerable, imperfect, uncomfortable parts. He won’t make you feel bad for who you’ve been, who you are, or who you want to be.
  7. Honesty. Being honest goes beyond not keeping secrets — it also involves sharing hopes, dreams, fears, and anything else you might want to know about a partner. The right guy will know that sometimes honesty means pointing out where you’re slipping, too, because he cares.
  8. Attraction. The sexual nature of relationships can ebb and flow, but in the right one you shouldn’t have to ask your man to see you in all your hotness. He should know it and feel lucky to have the opportunity to get anywhere near it.
  9. Love. You can ask people to love you if you want, but it doesn’t mean they’re going to do it. The right person will love you in such interesting and overwhelming ways that you’ll never question it, anyway.
  10. Peace of mind. In the wrong relationships, we spend a lot of time trying to get validation for the relationship because something just feels off. In the right relationship, there’ll be a certain calmness within the ups and downs because you know he’s not planning on going anywhere.
Kate Ferguson is a Los Angeles local and freelance writer for a variety of blog and magazine genres. When she's not writing, the UC Davis graduate is focused on pursuits of the entertainment industry, spin class, and hot sauce. Look for article links, updates, (and the occasional joke) on Twitter @KateFerg or @WriterKateFerg, or check out her personal blog ThatsRandomKate.blogspot.com