Things You Need To Start Admitting To Your BFFs

Sometimes it might seem like keeping your problems to yourself is the way to go, but sharing your thoughts, fears, and concerns with your girlfriends will make you feel less alone — and they’d want to know. They may even be going through similar things themselves, and even if they aren’t, it’s still important to open up, especially about these things:

  1. When you can’t handle life. Stress doesn’t have to be a solo struggle. We all go through hard times and that’s nothing to be ashamed of — sometimes the stress is just too much, so share the load. Even just admitting that you feel overwhelmed can take a lot of weight off your shoulders.
  2. When you feel like a failure. One minute you’re up and the next minute you’re down, but sometimes all the tiny failures pile on at once. When you feel like you try and try but your best is never enough, your BFFs will be able to share their own failures and remind you that success is right around the corner.
  3. When you break down and contact your ex. You gave into temptation and hit up your ex — it happens to the best of us. No matter how brave of a face your friends put on, they’ve probably been in the same boat as you. Stop hiding your weakness and you’ll find the strength to move on together.
  4. When you make a mistake. Your friends are the best people to help you figure out how to fix the problem. They know you better than anyone else, and they won’t abandon you over a little error in judgment. We all make mistakes, so stop hiding from yours and fess up to the people who love you the most.
  5. When you still miss him. Despite that fact that he treated you like crap, you might miss your ex from time to time. Guess what — that’s OK. Theres no reason to be ashamed of missing the good, but your girlfriends will be there to remind you of the bad and talk you out of going back to Mr. Wrong.
  6. When you feel depressed. Depression is never something that you should go through alone. It’s nothing to be ashamed of and the best thing you can do for yourself is tell someone. You never know, your friends may be facing the same struggles as you.
  7. When your relationship is in trouble. You don’t have to spill your dirty laundry, but you don’t have to pose as the perfect couple, either. If it’s only a matter of time before you break up, your friends will be there even before your world comes crashing down, but if they don’t know what’s going on with you, they might not know how to help.
  8. When you’ve lost your self-esteem. Even the most confident girls can feel down on themselves every now and then. The best way to get your confidence back up is to remember what makes you beautiful. Your girlfriends are the best people to pick you up and remind you how amazing you are inside and out.
  9. When you don’t want to go out. Raise your hand if you’ve ever lied to a friend about why you can’t go out. If your hand isn’t in the air, you’re a liar. Why are we so afraid to admit that all we want to do is just sit on the couch with no one but our Netflix account? Forget the excuses, and start respecting your girls with a little honesty.
  10. When you’re jealous. It’s natural to feel a little envy from time to time. Your ex moved on before you did and you can’t help but feel hurt. Maybe you’re even jealous of your friend, because she always gets the guy while you end every night alone. Every woman gets a little envious, and the only way not to feel like the solo member of the jealousy club is to admit your membership.
Kelsey Dykstra is a freelance writer based in Huntington Beach, CA. She has a bachelor’s degree in Creative Writing from Grand Valley State University and been writing professionally since graduating in 2013. In addition to writing about love and relationships for Bolde and lifestyle topics for Love to Know, she also writes about payment security and small business solutions for PaymentCloud.

Originally from Michigan, this warm weather seeker relocated to the OC just last summer. Kelsey enjoys writing her own fictional pieces, reading a variety of young adult novels, binging on Netflix, and of course soaking up the sun.

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