Even if you know it’s the right thing to do, breaking up sucks. Once you say those words to someone, you won’t be able to change your mind without consequences so you have to be sure. There will always be ups and downs in any relationship and sometimes it might seem easier to just break it off and be done with it, but a little communication and dedication can actually solve a lot of problems. Think twice before breaking up over these 12 things.
He’s gained a bit of weight. If you meet your significant other in your 20s and you expect to be with them for years, you’re going to have to get used to the idea that they aren’t always going to look the same. As we age, our bodies are going to change and there’s going to be a bit of a learning curve for staying in shape. It’s going to happen to you too, so if you think him putting on a few pounds is grounds to break up with him, you’d better be okay with someone doing the same thing to you one day.
One of your friends doesn’t like him. It’s totally normal to take the opinions of your close friends seriously. They care about you and they’re looking out for you. That being said, if it’s just one friend who doesn’t really like him, it might be a fluke. After all, some personalities just don’t mesh well. It’s best to talk to her and find out why she has a problem with him before you jump to conclusions.
You had one particularly bad fight. Being in a relationship probably means you’re spending a lot of time together and with that, there’s bound to be a fight every once in awhile. There will probably even be a few that seem bad enough to break up over, but as long as it’s not an ongoing issue or some huge decision (like whether or not to have kids, for example) you can’t agree on, you can probably get past it.
He merely glanced at another girl. It doesn’t matter how in love with you he is, chances are he’s going to notice another attractive girl every once in awhile. But just because he noticed her doesn’t mean the thought of leaving you and running off with her ever entered his mind. You’re both human and you’re allowed to find other people attractive, so chill out.
He loses his job. Getting fired or laid off isn’t an easy thing to go through and it’s possible it could lead to other problems for the two of you down the road, but that all depends on how he handles his newly minted unemployed status. He might take it all in stride and work hard to find a new job or he might need a little bit of support and encouragement. You’d expect the same from him if you lost your job, right?
He doesn’t like the same music as you. Musical taste is incredibly subjective and while it can be a fun thing to bond over, it’s also not a big deal if he’s into classic punk rock and you’re more of a pop-country kind of girl. You don’t have to have all the same interests in order to be compatible (in fact, that would be kind of boring). Taste in music is a pretty small thing in the grand scheme of relationships, don’t you think?
He has a friend you don’t like. He has one buddy you don’t really get along with. So what? It’s not like you’re dating him. Just be civil when you have to be and it shouldn’t be a deal breaker. As long as your guy can acknowledge why you wouldn’t like this friend (he’s a party animal, for example) then you’ll probably be okay.
He’s a bit of a workaholic. So he’s ambitious and committed to his job. How is that a bad thing? If he’s consistently putting work ahead of you or is upfront about the fact that you’ll never come first, that’s a different story. But if he makes time for you as often as he can and genuinely wants to be with you, who cares if you don’t get to see him all the time? It’s actually pretty nice to have a boyfriend but also have a good amount of time away from him.
He’s not really your physical type. So he’s not exactly the tall, dark and handsome Jake Gyllenhaal lookalike you had in mind–but he treats you with respect, makes you laugh and your mom loves him. So what’s the problem? If you dump him, you might regret it later when you realize looks are a lot less important than you thought.
You have different sex drives. It can be hard to meet in the middle when one person has a much higher sex drive than the other, but if you really want to, you can work things out. Your sex life will change and evolve as you get closer and stay together for longer anyway so if you’re both open to that, it doesn’t have to be the end of your relationship to you don’t always want sex at the same time.
He makes less money than you. It’s natural to want to be with a guy who pulls his weight financially. You don’t want to always be the one paying for dates and worrying about making rent. But the actual dollar amount he makes is a lot less important than how good he is at managing it. Think about it: he could actually be really good at budgeting and be able to teach you a thing or two.
He’s not a very good texter. So he doesn’t respond right away and when he finally does, it’s usually a half-hearted one-word answer. It might seem like he’s not that interested but if he’s engaged and talkative in person, he’s probably just not the texting type. That could actually be a plus in a world where no one ever calls each other anymore and texting slang and emojis have become an acceptable way to communicate.