What You Think You’re Doing Wrong In Relationships That You’re Actually Doing Right

You’re not as bad at the whole dating thing as you think you are. Even though magazines and movies might trick you into thinking you need to do things differently, you’re actually on the right track. Here are a few things you probably think you’ve been doing wrong, but you’ve actually been doing right:

  1. Going after the same “type.” If you can picture yourself marrying a bad boy, then don’t let all of the jerks you’ve dated in the past stop you from going after the same type of man in the future. If it’s what you like, then it’s what you like.
  2. Having high standards. Never apologize for wanting a boyfriend who treats you with respect, or a boyfriend that you’re physically attracted to. You deserve to be with someone who’s capable of meeting all of your wants and needs.
  3. Acting like you’re single. You’re not meant to turn into a completely different person as soon as you start dating. If you’re still spending plenty of time with your friends, that’s something to be proud of.
  4. Getting emotional. Don’t fault yourself for crying in front of your boyfriend. It’s actually healthy for you to get teary eyed around him, because it means you’re able to be open and honest with him.
  5. Looking desperate. It’s not a crime to double text your boyfriend. If he loves you as much as you love him, then he’ll welcome the attention.
  6. Picking fights. If you’re unhappy with the way he’s been acting, it’s better to tell him right away. That way, you can work on the issue instead of letting your anger build up until it becomes an even bigger problem.
  7. Letting your jealousy show. If you get jealous when he talks to a certain girl, don’t be afraid to let him know how you feel. Otherwise, he’s going to keep talking to her, assuming that you’re perfectly okay with it all.
  8. Keeping tiny secrets. You don’t actually need to tell your boyfriend about the time you threw up in front of your entire class. There’s nothing wrong with keeping some tiny things to yourself in order to look more attractive in his eyes.
  9. Letting yourself go. You should try your best to take care of your body, but if you gain a few pounds, it shouldn’t make your boyfriend any less attracted to you. If he’s only with you for your body, it’s better for you to find out early on.
  10. Moving too quickly. You should move at your own pace. If you’re with the right person, then it won’t matter how quickly or slowly your relationship develops, because you’ll be happy as long as you’re together.
Holly Riordan is a writer from Long Island, New York who has authored several science fiction and horror books. A graduate of Stony Brook University, she has spent nearly a decade writing for publications including Thought Catalog, Huffington Post, Teen Vogue, and more. You can find her on Instagram @hollyrio and Twitter @hollyyrio.