This Is Why You’re Still Single AF Even Though You’re Awesome

You’d think that because you’re awesome and have a lot to offer, guys would be knocking down your door to be with you. Strangely enough, it’s not happening. Why aren’t you finding the man of your dreams when you have so much to offer? It can be horribly frustrating, but there IS an explanation.

  1. Most men don’t understand you. Despite the fact that you have so much going for you, you find that most guys don’t get you at all. You thought they’d be thrilled to find someone as successful and grounded as you, but it turns out that they find you even more confusing than the average woman. You’re a force to be reckoned with, and most of them are too lazy to deal with your complexities.
  2. You refuse to settle. You’ve spent a lot of time becoming the amazing woman you are now. Why would you put up with any man who hasn’t done the same? Unfortunately, there are not a lot of extraordinary men out there to match up with your own rare qualities — or if there are, you haven’t found them. You’d simply rather stay single than get less than you deserve, so you’re still solo.
  3. You’re crazy busy. The problem with being an amazing catch is that you have a lot going on. Ironically, the very qualities that make you the best girlfriend ever can also stand in the way of you finding romance (or at least make it a bit more difficult). You simply don’t have a lot of time to go out and find it. Even if the perfect guy is standing right in front of you, you may not notice because you’re so busy.
  4. You won’t compromise who you are. You’ve come too far and worked too hard to give up the essence of your being in order to catch a partner. You do want to find love, but you won’t pay the price of losing yourself in the process. If he doesn’t love you for who you are, he’s not the right guy. It sucks, but it might take a while to find your match.
  5. You don’t connect on a higher level with most men. When you’re an amazing catch, you desire an amazing connection. You probably have a lot of casual, superficial interactions with guys, but that isn’t what you’re seeking. If there’s not crazy chemistry on all levels, you aren’t interested. Your lofty requirements mean you might be single a while.
  6. You have no patience for BS. This is probably your biggest problem. Just kidding — it’s not a problem at all! It’s just that unfortunately there are a lot of guys out there who are full of crap. You’re ready for a real man. You want maturity, respect, kindness, ambition and romance. You deserve all of it and more, but it takes a special man to keep up with a special lady like you.
  7. Men think you aren’t interested. You have such a full, happy life that some guys assume you are completely satisfied. You may even come across as completely uninterested in dating without realizing it. You are so confident and busy that you might look as though you have no time for a man in your life. You have to put out the love vibes whether you realize it or not.
  8. Most guys are intimidated by you. Sadly, a lot of modern men don’t have their act together. That’s okay — everyone has his own path — but they won’t even approach you. They assume that you wouldn’t be interested, and in most cases, they’re probably right. A guy who’s too insecure to approach you won’t be a good partner for you. It also makes them feel inadequate that you don’t need them — they aren’t sure what to do with that.
  9. Many of the rest are looking for something superficial. Even if they aren’t intimidated by you, a lot of guys aren’t willing to commit to something real. They want someone young and carefree who won’t make them give her the respect she deserves. You know better and you demand better. Some men can’t handle that, and screw that — you don’t need that in your life anyway. Still, it’s insanely frustrating when you realize that you’ve built up your strength, only to find a severe lack of strong men in your world.
  10. You aren’t satisfied with just anyone. Sure, you could date around, but it won’t be the same as finding love. You’re looking for the man of a lifetime and you won’t be happy until you find him. Why waste your time with mediocre men while you’re waiting? You know that you’re better off single than biding your time with more boring guys. The brutal truth is that if you want someone who is an equally amazing catch, you’re going to have to have patience, persistence, and faith in the universe.
A former actress who has always loved the art of the written word, Amy is excited to be here sharing her stories! She just completed her first novel, and is also a contributor for Elite Daily, Dirty & Thirty, and Thought Catalog. Amy is the founder of What If Journey and can be found on Twitter @amyhorton18. You can also visit her website at